Hey ladies!
This week I started daily videos to help answer your career, job search and business questions. Lots of questions have been flowing in and I am so excited to tackle them in this new video format! If you have a question, make sure you send it to to us on Facebook so that we can help you ASAP. You can find all the videos on my Facebook page and make sure you join our free Love Your Work and Life Ladies Facebook group too!
Here's the question I would like to tackle today. This question comes in from my current student so I am keeping it anonymous.
I'm having a bit of a crisis here. I started a new job, and I absolutely need to get out of here. Can I walk out of here? And how do I explain this one to future interviewers? I'm so stressed out at even the thought of coming into work. Do you have any advice? Do I switch jobs and keep on looking for a new career? I can't even concentrate on my career search.
Sorry about the crisis! 
And I've been there so I TOTALLY get it!! You will get through this!
My biggest tip for you is to change the focus and mindset from focusing so much on the job you hate and focus instead on the job you want.
The law of attraction says that everything coming in your life, you are attracting. You have to make it clear in your mind what you want because you attract what you think about most. Thoughts become things. If you focus on what you want, you'll get more of it. If you focus on what you don't want, you'll get more of it.
How does this apply to your job search? If you focus on the job you hate, you will never get unstuck. If you focus on how much you hate your job, your job will just get worse and worse. Instead, focus on getting the job and career you WANT and stay as positive as you possibly can.
How to Change Your Mindset
It might mean going to work and not putting 100% into your current role (not being perfect or working too hard). It could mean not socializing with people that drive you crazy because there are MUCH bigger and better things waiting for you! It might mean spending free time job searching including lunch breaks and any few minutes you get during a break at your job. It also means leaving work at work and when you walk out of work you head to a networking event or informational interview you are super excited about to get you through your workday.
Should You Just Quit?
I can't tell you what to do because I don't know your exact situation but I can tell you that it is easier to find a job when you have a job. I can't stress this enough. I almost quit a billion times but looking back I am so glad I stayed. But there are a few situations when I have seen clients need to quit their day jobs in order to open the floodgates for new opportunities:
1) When you have zero time to job search because you are working too much ...and I mean zero time. You get up at 4am to go to work and get home at 7pm at night. If that's not the case, then make the time to job search. Just 15 minutes here and there everyday can really add up!
2) When your emotional health is involved and you are being bullied. This is when you might need to seek private counseling or speak to someone in human resources. They can help walk you through how to cope and what to do next.
3) When you are in an unethical situation. If something is being done that is shady, report it and get the heck out.
How to Cope in a Job You HATE
When I was stuck in a job I hated, there were many days when I would come home to my husband and tell him I needed to quit. It was really helpful to have someone to talk to about this. He could help me put a plan together of making my next step.
What really allowed me to cope the most though is that I was working hard on my goals and dreams in the mornings, evenings and weekends. That is what got me through. I was nonstop doing informational interviews and going to networking events in fields that really excited me. I was blogging and starting to make an impact and income with my side business (that's now my full-time gig!). I would literally be sitting at my cubicle hating my work and then I would look down at my phone and an order would come in or someone that I really admired would say yes to an informational interview. THAT is how I got through my day!
I will tell you that the biggest change was in my head. I always used to be the go-getter and the hardest working woman you ever saw. I needed that next promotion or raise and I was always trying to be perfect so I could become CEO of the company someday. When I got totally stressed and burnt out and realized I was over it, I changed my thoughts. The moment I changed my mindset and told myself it's ok if I am NOT perfect, this isn't my long-term goal anymore to rise the ranks of this company, my life and work became so much easier.
So if your work is stressing you out, just do the best you can. You don't have to be perfect and not everyone has to love you at your job. You will be quitting very soon (especially because the woman who wrote this is a member of my Love Your Career Formula!) Your current role is just a stepping stone to the career of your dreams. You won't be there forever but you will look back someday and be really glad you stuck it out!
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