Last year went by in a flash and I may have said this about a few other years in the past but at least, I knew what I was doing. 2015 was full of memories, memories that are going to be precious for a long time to come but it will also be that year - the one that went by in a haze. Every time I would manage to gather my wits, The next moment I would find myself lost trying to figure out what just happened.
I made new friends, lost a few and got back in touch with some long lost ones. Relationships changed, evolved and some fizzled out. The good thing about having your birthday in January is that you make a list early on in the year to chart out what you want to accomplish. The Bad thing is it's January and you are already a year older!
Here's to a Fantasic 2016!
Be Thankful for everything you have and stress less about what you don't have. You don't have to be any less ambitious but learn to focus on the solutions rather than the problem. When you start looking for answers, you will find yourself appreciating everything that you have been blessed with. You will realize that finding a solution is much more constructive than whining endlessly about what is not being done or what is not right. Remember, Happiness is a state of mind
You can be friends with someone for years and then one fine day wonder how did you get along this well in the first place. On the other hand, you can know someone for a few months and realize they are the kind of person who will always be there for you. As we evolve and become better versions of ourselves, sometimes it is a good decision to let go off the extra baggage.
There are many people in the people do not know how to give. Even if they do stuff for you, they have an agenda behind it. They keep tabs on everything and make lists for everything they have done for you. However short it may be, but there will be a list and no acknowledgement for what you did for them on all those times. You can never win with such people so don't even try.
Always keep yourself (and your close friends and family) first. Whatever you do, whatever it takes, It has to be you first. Let me tell you, It is not being selfish, it is doing a favor to yourself. Most times it is us that put ourselves down. We have a constant negative script playing in our head. We don't deserve a better salary; we don't deserve a better life; we don't deserve good friends; we don't deserve a better job. Well you owe it to yourself and we deserve much, much more. Don't settle down and don't undersell yourself.
Listen to your parents just once, on the cue, just like that, for the heck of it or just so you won't break their heart. Someday, it just might turn out to be the best decision you ever took in life and you will thank yourself for it. We are sometimes so distracted by the routine of our everyday lives that it is important to get a third party perspective on things you have been doing and they might be the only people around that you can trust.
Forgive yourself for things you did wrong, for hearts you broke, for harsh words you said because sometimes people can be resentful enough not to forgive you, to make you feel like it was all your mistake even when it wasn't. It is very important to forgive yourself before asking for forgiveness. Until and Unless, you are not repenting your actions, the sorry you blurt out to the other person might not come across as an honest apology.
Take it easy - this one works like magic. Never rush through things (and I am not talking project deadlines here). Take in the moment. Stop and Smell the roses. Dance in the Rain. Let go. Forgive others. Pray for them to be well. Give others that benefit of doubt when they don't call you back, don't respond, say something rude or are just mean. Let them be. Let yourself be. You never know what it's like to be on the other side of the fence. Remember everyone you meet is fighting a battle of their own
Make friends and choose them carefully. It is true what they say "Friends are the family you choose. They are the only other people on this earth that will truly care for you, give you a shoulder to cry on, understand your perspective and stand by you when the world is pulling you down.
When a relationship becomes a liability, have the strength to let it go. Never depend on someone else so much that they have the power to hurt you in a way that it takes years for you to recover. If you feel it's a burden, take a call. It saves a lot of trouble later. On the other hand, if you feel something is so very good but not meant to be, end it on a good note. Those are the people you want to hold on to.
Never regret anything in your life. Well not even at that moment in time you actually feel like regretting it. When you look back - That could be the only good thing that happened to you in a long time. Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones that we miss!
