Just some random shit I was thinking about…
People who seek pleasure, tend to be very up and down. Not that I’m judging – but boxers and MMA fighters for example, you get a massive dopamine hit and euphoria when fighting (and winning) in front of a crowd, but the downs are massive.
I thought the pleasure/pain hypothesis was just a BS thing. But it terms of dopamine, besides a few things like cold water immersion – everything that boosts your dopamine, makes it plummet shortly after. This includes coke, sugar, and I’m not sure how experiences fit into this, but you defo feel shattered for a few days after winning a fight.
Anyway, it seems like good people, stable and reliable people are content, rather than happy as such. They are “always in the middle”. Off the top of my head, and I know he’s hardly everyone’s cup o’ tea but John Jocko Willink always seems like this. Brain Stann – former marine and MMA fighter, who I’ve heard described by a few of his friends via different podcasts as a reliable, good guy – also a good husband – who always has ‘options’ but is faithful and turns all the ‘options’ down flat. Doing the right thing.
My favorite Ted Talk – life changer:
