How often have we been caught in a situation where you don’t want to commit to doing something but then you don’t think it’s polite to refuse? First things first, you cannot please everyone.Have there been instances when you have been asked to host repeated office parties or even baby sit their daughter when you neck deep in work?The guilt of no is always there, but you have to learn to be a little selfish and put yourself first.You have to learn when to draw the line and decide whether the request made is in your ability and does not do damage to you as a person.People feel embarrassed to say no to their near and dear friends and family. But if you feel it in your head that you want to refuse then go ahead and do it. Don’t have second thoughts and get cold feet. Voice your thoughts, though it’s easier said than done.
Why to say no?
Why should you have to say no? Think about these few pointers and get the courage to really spell it out:
- Saying yes all the time is not necessary and not healthy.
- Saying no is not a crime.
- If saying no gives you time or any other interest, then why not.
- Others will have a backup plan if you refuse.
There is no set of rules to help determine when one should actually say no.
There are some things that you cannot get back – your time, money, life and health. So learn to prioritize the requests and then take a call.
Saying no is not that difficult once you set your mind to it.
When to say no?
It’s not easy to determine the situations when one has to say no. Look into these factors before you decide on an answer:
- Guilt should not be the reason for saying yes
- Don’t respond to a request in hurry, before you can really evaluate your options.
- Look into the pros and cons of saying yes.
- Look at your priorities in life and see if the request fits in.
How to say no?
There is no simpler way to say no than the actual word itself. Its easy.
Here are some pointers on how to say no:
- Say No
- Be firm
- Be honest
- Say it fast and don’t keep them waiting
- Give a reason if you want to
- No need to give detailed explanations
- Be polite and respectful
- Don’t hesitate to repeat saying asked no again
- If you can’t say no upfront in the particular situation, then offer to think or sleep on it, being non committal.
Saying no is not an easy task, especially if you’re used to saying yes all the time. But it’s never too late. Learn to say no. Saying no can help make your life less complicated.
Remember, practice makes perfect!
Written by:Rasha Ashraf
