I’ve always said “You’re an Ex for a Reason“!
EX means thanks for the Experience
But what happens when an ex lover wants to come back into your life? Do you allow him/her?
With today’s technology and the ability to search for a name, ex lovers around the world are snooping on their ex’s social media outlets, specifically Facebook. Go ahead and confess, I know you’ve done it. ;)
The Reconnection
That blasted Facebook Inbox – You Have a Messsage! Thinking it’s one of your friends hitting you up for something or wanting you to check out another friends Facebook page cause they posted something very stupid, you find a name and possible a profile pic of someone from your page. Someone that you left in the past because it just didn’t work out.
For whatever reason, this ex lover is either bored, thinking about you, looking for someone familiar to reconnect with, or could be simply harmless and just wants to say “Hey”. Yeah right.
Forgive me if I sound cynical but I don’t believe an ex lover messages you just to say “Hey”. They are being nosy; want to know what you’re doing and possibly who you’re doing; and maybe to try to toy with your heart again.
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Reactions
Depending on why your relationship ended or who ended it, you may be excited. However, it also may dig up some really painful memories.
So what do you do?
- Act cordial
- Act like no time has passed
- Be nosy too and ask a lot of questions
- Friend them
- Block them
- Other
What would you do? If you’re currently in a relationship, do you ever think how your reconnection with an ex lover could affect that? Reminiscing about an ex lover and all those memories could easily suck you in emotionally.
Want To Play With Fire?
Depending on where you are in your life and the circumstances of your break up, you might be seeking a bit of revenge?
- Egg them on into chat sessions
- Talk romantic or seductive
- Get revenge by telling him/her how much better you are now that you’re without them
- Make up lies to really amp up your now current life
- Arrange a meet up and don’t go
- Stalk their Facebook page and then send a copy of all your correspondence to their current partner
- Other?
Is It Worth It?
I truly believe you’re an Ex for a Reason. Something didn’t work out. This person may have totally changed and become a better person. Could be. This person could be trying to prey on your emotions in order to get something from you. Likely. This person could be out just to cause trouble for you. Possible. Or it could be a totally harmless contact. You’ll have to be the judge.
So What Do You Do?
I would love to hear your thoughts. Here’s the scenario:
You’re currently in a relationship. An ex from a decade or more ago contacts you via Facebook message, email, whatever. How do you handle it?
Go!
