Maybe you’ve already heard about Nicole Deadone, author of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm. She is also the founder of OneTaste, a company that offers training in orgasm, communication, and man-woman relationships through online media and in-person coaching and courses. The practice at the heart of her work is called OM or Orgasmic Meditation.
As she explains at this TED intervention that orgasm is crucial to a healthy life both for women and men, and that the words “frigid” or “anorgasmic” are simply wrong. All women who have trouble reaching orgasm suffer from a cultural problem, not a biological one, caused by circumstancial aspects: too much work, too much food, diet, social pressure, anxiety… And many women have come to Nicole and asked for a way to fulfill this hunger that can’t quite get rid of.
Sex and orgasm shouldn’t be a cliché, but a way to know yourself better and enjoy your birth right to pleasure.
I suggest you watch this TED video, very interesting. You may also check out the TOW’s website.
The following is a part of the TOW manifesto:
A turned-on woman rewrites the playbook when it comes to sex. She knows that sex is not an indulgence; it is literally her source of power. She would never use it to barter for something else she wants, for a turned-on woman knows that sex is the gateway to the only thing she truly wants. She knows that if she doesn’t want sex, it’s because she’s not having the right kind of sex. A turned-on woman wants sex that creates energy rather than depletes it. She seeks the slow burn, the kind of sex that heats her up from the inside out, stoking her fire and powering her journey.
A turned-on woman does not feel the need to dress sex up so it looks one way or another. She does not perform, embellish, or supplement. Instead she stays present, opens herself to the experience, and feels her way. She experiences what is there and asks for what she desires.
A turned-on woman wants a partner who is willing and able to have this kind of sex with her. More than that, she wants a partner who desires this same kind of sex for themselves. Generative sex; sex that begets more turn-on, more awakening, and more sex. Sex that ignites; that lights up the power grid. The turned-on woman knows that she is the live wire.
