#Relationships: How Do You Spell D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R?

#Relationships: How Do You Spell D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R? So many people have told me that “Yes, I’m friends with my Ex” and I always wondered how do they do it? So I decided to try an experiment and it ended in D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R!

I truly gave it a fair try even though I was curious how far I would go because I was already in a committed long-term relationship.

Take a peek for yourself”

The Time I Tried to be Friends with an Ex-Lover

He came out of the blue and reached out to me for friendship. Both of us were in long-term relationships in which I thought, both of us were committed to. After never have been friends with an ex-lover before, because I truly thought it was just impossible, I shunned him away.

Over a year later, I felt like an ass for shunning him away. We had been great lovers in the past and I was curious what he had been up to. So I reached out to him, and he accepted.

The Experiment

Reconnecting with an ex-lover, regardless if you’re in a committed relationship, will definitely stir up memories. Some may be unpleasant; others may be fabulous. However, it’s next to impossible to shut those out once you start the reconnect.

I bared my soul to him on our relationship. He was the best “lover” I ever had. There were many reasons why we split and looking back now, they were immature reasons on my behalf. I simply wasn’t ready and the relationship had not blossomed to the next level.

I began having dreams about him and shared one juicy one. I assumed he could handle it. The content of that dream must have led him to believe that it was alright to sext or email sexual innuendos back and forth. I thought I would be alright with it, however my guilty conscience kicked in and I was definitely uncomfortable with it.

#Relationships: How Do You Spell D.I.S.A.S.T.E.R?

I also didn’t believe that he would have taken it as far as he did. But he did. And then he got mad about it because I wouldn’t partake in the game; and said he was just going to leave me alone.

Friendship Attempt Ended

Now I’m sure it doesn’t always happen this way, however, this is actually the second time I tried remaining friends with an intimate ex-lover and failed. And Failed Horribly I might add.

Not Much Hope

From then on, my hope of ever being “friends” with an ex-lover has been blown out to the Great Blue Yonder.

I just don’t foresee it ever happening in my future nor do I feel the need to keep an ex-lover in my life; for they are an EX for a REASON, and should always remain an EX.