Justin Y writes:
I think some men cry though. Yep. It might not be actual crying, but they whine all the time, but in an ACCEPTABLE form of course. Like they might claim someone has a national or racial grudge against them. So they talk about it all the time, especially at a bar or something. Your thinking, “Man I wish this guy would man up and get over it.”. I’ve seen this many times, often by really macho guys, who really believe they are masculine.
Sometimes I would prefer a crying man to one with a grudge all the time about some issue. Really
Juliette: Yeah, negativity isn’t exactly an attractive trait in either sex…
I think girlfriends even leave me over that.
My basic attitude is that people pretty much suck and society is no good. And I have a lot of excellent evidence to support that.
I frequently trot this theory out to explain why people are being shitty in large numbers for some reason. For instance, I had a friend who got out of the hospital and needed a lot of help in daily living. All these people had made promises to help them, but then they all bailed on their promises. Well, they had promised to help for free. Most people might only help if you paid them.
The friend wanted to know what was up with that, and I told them that people pretty much suck. They often make all these great promises to help you in your time of need, usually for free. People do this because they have a need to see themselves as huge saints and fonts of eternal goodness. It feels good for the ego to see themselves that way.
But when the chips are down, most people are just selfish shits. That is what I told my friend, that most people talk big, but when the cards are down, they are just selfish shits and do not follow through on their promises. I also said that was a great example of why people are basically no good in a lot of big ways.
I suppose I might include myself in that, as I am not really good at helping people for free myself. Though actually I do it quite a bit anyway, I would rather not. But I do not make big fake promises of being Mother Theresa for some ego benefit either.
Sure, some people are very selfless, but those are a minority.
I had a girlfriend who was increasingly appalled by this mindset of mine that humanity pretty much sucks, and I think that was one reason why she dumped me. She also included me in the “selfish shits” category when she got rid of me, which I did not think was fair.
However, I do not whine, complain and say poor, pitiful me too much. I feel that way a lot, but I don’t dare say it because it makes me look weak and like a failure, and you just don’t get any sympathy for that.
If you complain about something in your life, most people just look at you with an attitude like they do not want to hear it.
That’s the way people are.
Don’t have a girlfriend? Well go get one, moron.
Not married? Well go get a wife, idiot.
Having problems on the job? Well, quit your job and get a new one then, you fool. And in the meantime, shut up.
Job stressful? Well, quit then and shut up while you’re at it.
Job pays very poorly? Well, go out and get a new job that pays better then, loser.
Crazy psycho girlfriend driving you nuts? Dump the bitch, you fool.
I used to complain that people were really treating me like crap and hating on me big-time for not being married. This was when I was in my mid 20’s. Honestly, it was mostly women and married men who were doing that, but both of those groups of people can pretty much go to Hell about a lot of their attitudes, their attitude towards marriage being high on the list. I would tell people about it, and they would look at me like, “No sympathy, loser!” And then they would jump right in and side with the people who were hating on me. Their attitude was, “People beating you up for not being married? Well, it is lame, you idiot! And here, let me throw in a punch or two myself! Get married, moron!”
Just to show you how idiotic most humans are, a lot of the women who were hating on me for not being married were single women who had never been married themselves.
What I was doing here was painting a target on my face and handing someone a stick to beat me up with. You do that and a lot of people will pick up the stick and start hitting you with it themselves. They will gleefully join in with your attackers.
Bottom line is a lot of people don’t want to hear you bitching, especially if you are a man, so I don’t do it a whole lot. I have a world of things to bitch about, but I keep to myself, or I only tell people who I know will be sympathetic.
