I have written about the bugchasing phenomenon in the gay male community before on this site. Now there is new (fictional) movie coming out about bugchasing called Chaser. The director is Sal Bardo and the lead actor is Max Rhyser.
Looking first at the director, who is being interviewed by a woman, it is was not obvious to me whether he was gay or not. Maybe he was, maybe he wasn’t. I Googled him a bit and it turns out that almost all of the movies that he makes have gay subjects. What straight man would make nothing but gay movies? It’s not remotely possible. I found nowhere where he flat out admitted to being gay, though he says as much towards the end of the interview, referring to the gay community as “our community.”
What I found fascinating was how straight acting or normal acting the director was. I suppose some might find his behavior vaguely effeminate, but the percentage of modern straight men who act almost exactly like this director on the masculinity-femininity scale is extremely large, especially in the younger generations of men. So it’s obvious to me that not all gay men are obviously effeminate. Many of them act more or less the same as a huge percentage of us straight men are acting.
Either gay men are acting straight or straight men are acting gay or both types of men are converging on some sort of a metrosexual androgyny that is mystifying in its opacity. You really can’t tell if many men are gay or straight anymore unless you ask.
I actually like that a lot of gay men are acting just like us because I am not real fond of sissies, straight or gay. Interestingly, a lot of gay men, when asked, will say, “Oh I only like straight acting men or even straight men. I hate sissies.” So you see that effeminate gay men are not even very well liked amongst gays. Hardly anyone other than fag hags likes them. Another interesting thing about gay men is that the more effeminate they are, the more pathology they display (see previous posts for pathologies among gay men). It is as if whatever is causing the effeminate behavior is indicative of something that went wrong somehow, and when something goes wrong, there is often more than one result.
The main actor is obviously effeminate and he must be gay. However, it seems like he is a very good actor as he did some method acting to get into this role, and I respect all method actors because that must be so hard to do.
Watching both of these men here, I felt that we straight men need to get over gay men. It was clear to me that other than liking to screw guys, these two fellows are not only fellow human beings and therefore share many things with the rest of us, but also curiously enough, they are fellow men, and we straight men may well be able to relate better to them as men than we think we do. I would imagine that we have more in common with these guys than we think we do.
Curiously, I made a few friends on the Net and I got to know these guys very well. Both were excellent writers. After I had known them for some while, it came out that they were gay. It wasn’t obvious at all before. They are still as good of guys before they told me that than they were before. Both of them keep their homosexuality very private and hardly ever discuss it with me. I actually like private gay men like this much better than the loudmouths that go around advertising their homosexuality all the time. Straight men can relate a lot better to privately gay men than we can to the screamers who seem to be all about their homosexuality and not about very much else.
