As for men with borderline, I imagine someone just acting that way outright without an created image. Ranting about people on the internet or smashing things. Social media is normal on the surface? But I am not sure.
JohnHG: Indeed Borderline men project their pain out as aggression and violence in the typical male fashion.
One binary way of splitting up the universe is to posit two different principles, the Masculine Character or Principle and the Feminine Character or Principle. We can divide much of the universe up into these two opposing characters or essences, though a lot of things are obviously going to be problematic, like nonhuman animals, plants and rocks. They seem to be outside of this binary, which mostly applies to humans their psyches.
I will add though that male animals tend to have more Masculine Character and female animals tend to have more Feminine Character. Incredibly enough, we can see this binary all the way down to small fish like minnows! Isn’t that unbelievable?
I am following the unjustly maligned Otto Weininger here.
It is important not to confuse these with men and women. Following Weininger, I believe that probably all men and all women have at least some aspects of both the masculine as well as the feminine character. Most if not all men have some feminine character in them, and most if not all women have some masculine character in them. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Obviously this runs wild somewhat in homosexuals, which may be why they are so dysfunctional. Gay men will have much more Feminine Character than straight men and lesbians will have much Masculine Character than straight women. Not because they are sick but because that is their nature as homosexuals. That’s the way a homosexual is “meant to be” – it’s their natural state.
As for Borderline men, first what you need to understand is that the Borderline state is part of the Feminine Principle. It’s a feminine disorder. I think Borderline is what you get when you take all the bad parts of a woman and you exaggerate them to their most extreme and crazy. It’s sort of “woman principle run mad.”
In the same way, if you take all the bad parts of men and exaggerate them to their craziest, you get Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Antisocial Personality Disorder, psychopaths or sociopaths. These disorders are what happens when you take the bad aspects of men and take them to their ultimate extreme. It’s “male principle run wild.” In that same sense also, there’s “a little borderline in every woman” and sadly, there’s often a “a little narcissist and psychopath in every man.”
There’s nothing wrong with any of this per se – this is simply the way of the universe manifesting down to the human level. It’s Natural Law if you wish to see it that way.
Hence we have disorders of the Female and Male Principles such as Histrionic Personality Disorder (the male half of this binary is called Antisocial Personality Disorder, psychopaths or sociopaths) and Borderline Personality Disorder (the male half of this binary is called Narcissistic Personality Disorder).
It follows then that men who have disorders of the Feminine Principle are often gay or bisexual. And in fact, up to 75% of Histrionic men are gay. If you have ever met the “gay male drama queen” stereotype you know what I mean. And quite a few Borderline men are gay or bisexual.
Borderline men also cut themselves a lot like Borderline women do. Cutting is straight up Feminine Principle. Men just don’t do that crap. It’s not that men are not self-destructive. Of course we are, and we are worse than women that way if you look at suicide rates. It’s more that we self-destruct in other ways. There’s something downright pussy about cutting yourself that is off-putting to most masculine men.
However, Borderline men are not purely Feminine Principle. They are still men in a huge way as gay men are still men in very important ways such as sexuality. Men tend to project depression, pain, rage, etc. outwards towards others. They take their inner pain, pull it out of themselves for ego protection, weaponize it, and turn it out at others as aggression.
This insures that men experience much less depression the women, but this also leads to aggression and violence, egotism, vanity, and arrogance, criminality and amorality, viciousness and sadism and fewer suicide attempts but far more completions, since men think if you are going to do something, don’t screw around and play games with it, just do it and do it all the way.
Women of course tend to turn their pain and even rage and anger inwards towards themselves, leading to self-hatred, low self-esteem, depression, masochism, cutting, suicidality and suicide attempts but not completions.
Borderline women engage in a lot of aggression and even some violence, yet they also turn much of their pain inwards towards themselves as depression and self-destructive behaviors like cutting.
Borderline men are still men though, and while some do cut, they also project a lot of their pain outwards at others as aggression and especially violence.
I heard of a Borderline man recently a friend of a female friend. He cut himself and she showed me pictures that he was sending to her to show off of his cut up arm. She also affirmed that he was bisexual, as I suspected. And she said that he told he got into about three out and out physical fights a week with other men. This is pretty typical.
I heard of a Borderline man who would deliberately go into very tough bars like biker bars where he would deliberately pick fights with the tough guys. I was told that he did this a few times a week. Of course he got beat up all the time, and there seemed to be a masochistic element too where he liked to get his butt kicked.
Anyway, I hate to say it, but Borderline men are bad. They just are, sorry. Borderline women are horrible and I know people who insist that they are actually evil, but Borderline men are so much worse. They’re quite violent and many are out and out dangerous. Jails and prisons are full of Borderline men.
