Shi wrote:
Robert, how do you feel about grown-up men who live with their mothers. Nowadays it’s becoming a very common trend everywhere. Apparently, it’s a great arrangement for business-people such as restaurant and hostel owners, shopkeepers and others who never really move out of their home towns.
Last time I saw my mother was like 1 year back because she’s in another town far away from where I am living, a good 2500 kilometers away. That is the norm of course but increasingly, I run into SONS and even DAUGHTERS who never left the crib.
I could understand a man wanting to stay close to his elderly, sick mother but in most cases, the overgrown kids never really had a chance to get off of the apron strings.
There are of course, some advantages of such an arrangement. For starters, you tend to save a lot of money. But, the whole idea of living with your mother after a certain age sounds so rotten and idiotic – how can anyone put up with that.
At what age? If you are at university, unemployed or saving to move out, it makes sense. If you have a great arrangement with your family where you live in the basement or in some house in the backyard or next door it is cool because then you can bring chicks over. Mostly it sucks because you cannot get laid.
Most people I have met who are living at home do not wish to be, but they are honestly too broke to move out. In the US, it is very much not ok at a certain point. I lived at home with a few periods out until I moved out at age 24. I graduated from college at age 23 1/2, and I didn’t really have enough money to move out until then. You would not believe the shit people gave me for even living at home that long while I was in school!
I believe I lost a job at age 24 because I had not moved out. although I did move out for real only 2 months after the job ended. I tried to keep it a secret to everyone but somehow they asked me and I said I was. My fag boss was so enraged by that that that seemed to be one of the reasons he fired me. But then he kept trying to fuck me too and buying me all these fancy lunches and letting me get away with murder on the job and I kept turning him down for the fag sex and then out of the blue I was the Devil and could not do anything right and next thing I knew, I was fired for no reason, for “being unhappy on the job.” Actually it was the best job I ever had.
Please be very very careful if you are a goodlooking young man and have a gay male boss. I have been harassed by them and two of my friends have too. Typically they fire you if you refuse to fag off with them. They often offer you a room too to go along with the deal which of course ties you do them even more because if you refuse to queer around with them, you are on your ass and homeless.
Most of the people giving me shit were dicks who never went to college and moved out right after they got married and usually got married at age 19 or so and now were in their late 20’s-early 30’s and had a couple of kids.
White men in the late 20’s – early 30’s are by far the biggest assholes on Earth. The worst ones of all got married at age 18-21 and now have a wife and a couple of kids. They think they are “adults” and everyone who is not married with a couple of brats and a mortgage at their age is a loser. Their contempt for single men, even young single men around age 22-24, is off the charts, but honestly I think it borders on jealousy. They should be avoided at all costs by everyone.
I think if you have no other choice it is ok.l
In foreign countries and in the third world it is basically normal.
In Italy it is normal for a man to live at home until 40 if he is single. The guy will often live in the basement with a separate entrance where he has his own wine cellar, etc. and he gets to bring women home. There was a recent 60 Minutes type TV show on single Italian men who continued to live at home. It is very much culturally approved and they can often sneak women in.
I talked to someone in Argentina and he said it is ok to live at home until you are 35 or so, but after that, you should probably move out.
I was involved with a Salvadoran woman recently who was almost outraged that I allowed my 81 year old mother to live on her own while I lived on my own 33 miles away. To her, this was almost a crime. Other cultures are a lot different about this stuff.
In a lot of these countries, when they do move out, they do not move far away and often live very close to their parents’ house (even next door) and are over at the parental house all the time.
It made me nuts to live at home off and on til age 24 and after I came on hard times several times in adulthood where it was either go homeless or move home again, I did come back and live at home for a while in adulthood. However, having been on my own for much of my time since age 24, I will say that living away from the parental home is very much superior and desirable. I believe it matures you a lot more, and plus people don’t reject you with insane contempt as they do when you live at home.
You can still go back and visit sometimes. My Mom comes over here pretty regularly, but usually does not stay long. Sometimes she comes over and we go out to lunch. She has meetings in my city so sometimes she stops by. I see her about once a week at her place for dinner and much less commonly, twice a week. I stay for about 2-3 hours and then I take off.
Some people have heard of this and have accused me of living at home. Apparently I have to be like you and move 2,500 miles away from my parents otherwise I am not an adult. When a society gets like that, you know it’s insane.
Most of the world is characterized by close relations between parents and children. It is an Old World/Third World/Arab World/Muslim World/Latin American/Asian tradition. I fail to see what it wrong with it.
For all of their faults and exasperating tendencies, my family has always been there for me when I really needed them, for money, shelter, support or whatever. My friends and lovers have been pretty damn fair-weathered. As soon as things get bad, they are gone.
I would say your family is much superior to your friends because mostly they will never abandon you and will always come help you out when you really need help badly.
