A man who is sure he is gay is also wondering if he might be bisexual instead of gay. That is, he is sure he into men but he is also wondering if he is into women too.
Thanks for the response. I always thought that I was gay, but there is something that makes me feel that I am bisexual. Sometimes I do get infatuated with women, especially when I feel that I can socialize and relate to them, but then I’m confused as to whether it is infatuation or not, but rather a bond that we had developed as friends.
I do not know. Infatuation can probably occur with any sexual orientation. I remember that I felt very deeply about some of my male friends. In all cases, we were both heterosexual as far as I could tell. In one case, the bond between him and me was so great that I thought, “You know, if I was gay, I would probably try to screw this guy.” But I’m not gay or bi, so I had no sexual feelings toward him whatsoever, and if you’re straight, the idea of having sex with a guy is often terrifying, like your worst nightmare X 1000. What we had though was a very intense friendship that could be seen as a sort of “love,” minus sexual attraction.
I always thought that one of the greatest bonds two males can have is the great friendships that form between two straight guys. Once you take sex and even sexual attraction off the table, it seems as if a huge burden has been lifted, and both males can be completely free in a way. In addition, the lack of a sexual element usually means a serious lack of drama. It is almost as if sexual attraction or sex would ruin it. I don’t think you need to be turned on by someone or screw them or be in romantic love with them to have some of the deepest, most profound and most satisfying relationships possible.
We can feel the same way about parents and siblings. I have felt intense love for my mother and some siblings, but I never actually wanted to screw them.
A lot of people think the deepest and most profound loving relationships are found in romantic and sexual love with the opposite sex. But that’s not necessarily so. The love of a straight man for his mother, for his father, for his brothers or maybe even his sisters, for his cousins, and even for his male friends, can rival or even surpass romantic and sexual love with a female.
