I’m self determined. Yeah, that didn’t come easy though. It took a few great leaps of faith. It was the spring of 2005, and I was in rat race for time. I was determined to move onward my life, and relocate to Maryland. I was almost done with my divorce and I needed to breathe. And my breathing became very labored as I was leaving Syracuse, N.Y.
Self determination began with a HUGE commitment to myself that I would never again get in a relationship that was going nowhere . No promises no commitments no effort. And that was the first self commitment . I held to that, until later that October of 2005, God messed up my plans .
The second was that I needed a new start. A new job and a better and more intriguing place to live . I had friends in Md. And surely with the money I’d saved, I could truly begin anew.
I remember it clearly.
I wrote down my dreams . Where I wanted to go… and I ” built and altar” – so to speak… I placed it right above my head, so it was the first thing I saw when I awakened, my my lofty bedroom , then, I began to thank (God) and I worshiped. I began to affirm highly with thanksgivings into God where I was going to go.
In Kwaanza , they call it “Kugichagulia”. ( It even sounds messy…) Well that was entirely messy year! I ended up taking on three part time jobs losing my apt and finding one cheaper than I’d ever imagined at the last moment and I didn’t even have to move back to NY. In fact, I met the love of my life that October, I got a new and well paid full time job that paid very well, and six months later I relocated to Texas with an even better paying job. But not before my money bottomed out, I quit the $7 dollar an hour job , lost my friends; and failed the test I thought would help me find a better paying job. I was all alone, at one point but I was okay with that. I had been alone with God before.
But unlearned something about myself and …God. That you have to believe in your dreams. And just when it appears those dreams won’t manifest ,
The Life Lesson:
God comes through because He’s so pleased you believed in Him and in your ability to pull through.
Nthabiseng- my trip to S Africa brought me rosy cheeks! ;)
Link also here:
https://jennreneowens.wordpress.com/2015/12/27/2nd-day-self-determination/
