Imagine a world in which roles were reversed and men cooked for women. Picked up socks, and could not wait to get married.
Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding.
Picture him getting checked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you. Then add a few ultimate:
Where’s my ring?
Why won’t you marry me?
Chances are, you would assume the guy wasn't firing on all cylinders. And then you’d start planning your escape. It’s not you, it’s me. [Translation: It’s definitely you.] I’m too busy with work.
I love but I’m not in love with you.’’ Then you’d blow out the door…like TNT.
As scary as it sounds, this is precisely the approach omen are taught on how to catch a husband.It’s the plight of every ''Nice Girl'' who puts everyone else first, puts her own needs last, and doesn't think she is worthy of touching the hemline of her man (s) pants.
When I polled men, they all said confident women are in very short supply. And that a confident woman’s is what they find sexiest. Is it any wonder that confident women are hard to come by? Look around.
The average fashion magazine tells women to act like a servant, as if dating were a labor-intensive, blue-collar-job application:
''Can you serve a cold beer in trashy lingerie?
Do you leave razor-sharp creases in his shirts like employee-of –the-month at thhe Jolly Roger motel?
Do you wear cellphone for him?
Are you gardening in stilettos?
Are you giving it up doggie-style?
If so, he’ll drop to one knee and propose…’’
What women are learning from all of this is how to behave desperately. When her attitude is ''Pick me!'' she hits the kill switch on his desire.
It’s human nature. You’d be just turned off by a guy who brought two dozen roses to a first coffee date and told you he felt like the luckiest SOB on the planet in the first five minutes.
It’s human nature.
Telling a woman to work harder to please is like telling a kid to walk up to a schoolyard bully on the first day of school and say, ''Here, take my launch money. And you can have my cupcakes too. I’ll even throw in my lunchbox since you don’t’ have one.’’ Or, in a dating situation,
Here, take my body.
And I made you a cake.
Please be nice.
Please marry me.
I’ll even jack my butt up nice and high like they do in yoga. It’s so comfortable being upside down.
Really.
I just love it!''
Just because a man sleeps with you doesn't mean he’s thinking about the future. For him o think about forever, there has to be something he respects within you. Like a strong WIT… and a strong mind.
In addition, you have to know your own mind. The more you focus on elevation yourself, the more he will work to be at the top of your priority list.
He considers you a long-term prospect when you've added the key ingredient: respect. And respect is the glue that holds everything together.
Doreen is a perfect example of why smart, confident women come out on top. Very early on, her fiancé tried to give her his 2 cents on how she would dress.
She was leaving for a meeting and he told to wear a dress instead of the pantsuit she had on. Then he told her she was wearing too much makeup.
What the nice girl would have done is run out and buys a new wardrobe. But Doreen playfully put him in check?
Listen here, Versace.
This outfit has always been fine. And I haven’t had any complains about the makeup either. That way, if you don’t want to see me in it, you don’t have to come over.
In order to be looked at differently, you have to think differently. He has to see that you call your own shots and that you don’t need input from anyone about how to put your socks on.
This says, I’m secure.
The biggest attraction killer is neediness and insecurity. The bitch doesn't audition or try to be the best in show. Instead of where’s my ring or why won’t you marry she’s thinking:
''What’s the advantage of having this guy around?''''How do I feel about myself after I've been in his company?''
''What’s in it for me?''
And then a funny thing happens: He falls all over himself to be with her.
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