Answered on Queera.
I can’t speak for lesbians at all and I can’t really speak for gay men. I can only speak from the POV of a straight man.
I don’t think they have the faintest idea who is gay. How would you be able to tell? As evidence, gay men have been going after me, a straight man, and most of my goodlooking straight friends for decades now. This has happened to me so many times I can’t even keep track of it. So either I act gay (Do I? I have no idea, but I hope not), or they have no idea who is gay and who isn’t. Incidentally, none of my friends who they went after all the time acted gay (as in effeminate) either. However, many of them were rather soft men, and they were all extremely handsome, often in a very pretty or even feminine way. They were “pretty boys.”
Think about it. If gay men are constantly hitting on straight men, they’re either sociopaths who like to go after straight guys, or they have no clue who is gay and who isn’t.
I know one thing. Gay men go after good-looking men. I had a few straight friends who were male models, and they told me they were fighting off gay and bi men night and day.
There is a lot of nonsense about some Gaydar that gay men have that allows them to figure out who is gay and who is not. I have no idea if this works, but my experience in life is that this Gaydar doesn’t seem to work at all or at least it has a huge false positive rate.
Think about it. If this Gaydar works so great, why do gay men swarm on some straight guys like mosquitoes in Alaska?
