I am actually a pretty nice guy. They say never to apologize to a woman, but I apologize a lot. At some point you can sound too wimpy and pitiful and you have to be careful not to cross that line.
You don’t have to be an asshole. But you need to fight back. Most guys never fight back against a woman. If you fight her hard when she is out of line, she actually falls for you even more, and it actually makes them horny.
Women are like children. Children always love to test parents’ boundaries and women always love to test men’s boundaries to see what they can get away with. I do not mean that women are childish, but they are rather childlike, which is a quality I like. Instead, women are naturally rebellious and mischievous and that is why they like to see what they can get away with like a devious, manipulative, mischievous child.
Women, like kids, actually want you to set some boundaries on them. Women actually like to be confined somewhat to a set of boundaries by a strong, somewhat dominant man and, like a child obeys a parent who sets boundaries on them, a woman will respect a man who sets boundaries on her. Women also like to be controlled by strong, dominant men like kids like to be controlled by strong, dominant parents.
Women also want a man who is very loving, kind, and wonderful but also somewhat mean or even scary and possibly sociopathic. Dangerous men make women horny as Hell.
When she gets completely out of line, cuss her out like a sailor. Don’t cave in and don’t act like you got your feelings hurt. Laugh right in her face when she tries to insult you.
Laugh in her face when she says she doesn’t want to fuck, and say, “That’s what you think. You all say that. I’ll check back with you in a while and you will change your mind. They always do.” Give her a choice of where to sleep if sex is uncertain. I offer “a bed in a bedroom or the pull out couch.” If she picks the couch, laugh at her and say, “They all do that. I guarantee you will come knocking on my door in the night.” And often they do such that.
They love this and are shocked that a man is offering them a choice. Put it in her hands whether you have sex or not. Women love to be empowered and a lot of the time they decide to seduce you.
Women spend their whole lives fighting off horny men, and they freak out when they meet a man with an abundance mentality who acts like he could care less whether he has sex with them or not.
Also this implies that you have other women waiting in the wings. Always imply that you have other women waiting in the wings. Be mysterious about it.
Act like she is in competition with a lot of other really good women. I had one woman headed down that road, and she said, “There are probably a lot of other good, attractive women after you too. How can I compete with them?” It wasn’t true but I lied and said it was. This will make her feel insecure, but it’s better because now she thinks you are hot property and she will have to be the best to land you.
Later on, she said, “You should pick me over those other women because I give the best deep throat west of the Mississippi.”
They love to compete with other women, and if they are not the only ones, they will try to be better and even out-fuck and out-kink the other women.
If you have two girlfriends at once, it is very difficult, but if she’s ok with it, occasionally play them off each other. If she acts bad, say, “I should leave you! You are mean to me! The (other woman) is never mean to me like you are!”
She will literally compete to try to beat a better girlfriend and will even say she is going to beat up the other woman, pull a knife on her, etc. If you have two girlfriends, carefully make them jealous of each other so that they will fight over you. Women love to fight over men, especially men they consider the best men. Women fighting over you is literally Alpha.
Make her jealous of other women by acting like you are hot property so she regards you as a prized possession that she needs to fight off other women to keep. I had one woman said, “I will cut a bitch with a knife if she tries to take you away from me.” Act like she might need to do just that. Tell her about other women who check you out. That makes you seem like she has to fight over other women to keep you.
Cultivate a bad boy persona and play it up to the hilt. Act like you live just barely outside the law. Play up an outlaw persona. Act like you don’t give a fuck. Brag about any victimless crimes you committed and emphasize how you got away with it. I lived as a criminal as a drug dealer for 14 years, and I never caught. Women love to hear that and they especially love to hear how I never got caught. For some reason that really turns them on.
Act like you are God’s gift to women. A huge ego is probably one of the best things you can cultivate. I literally think I am King of the World. It’s bullshit, actually I am a pathetic failure, but I don’t care if it’s true or not. Everyone thinks men like that are douchebags, but women love vain, conceited, egotistical men.
But watch the narcissism and don’t go too far off into that, or you lose me. Plus hardcore narcissism like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, while being good Game in a number of ways, in my opinion is simply bad Game in many other ways. To me that behavior is straight up bad Game. You will be the guy everyone loves to hate. That’s automatically bad Game right there.
Do not act desperate! Forget to call her. Blow her off for a week or two. Let her chase you. If you make a date for 1-2 weeks in advance, wait until that time before you contact her. If you contact her in a day or two, you will seem desperate, over-eager and pathetic and she will dump you like a hot potato. I still make this mistake because it’s hard to wait 10 days for a date without contacting her.
Never admit you are falling in love with her. Just go ahead and do it, but keep it secret until she says she is falling for you, and then reveal it. Don’t fall too hard but that is hard to do.
I always keep a bit of a distance even when I am crazy in love. This leads to accusations that I don’t care. I do care, but we men often just don’t show it very much. Don’t act like you don’t care too much though even if that is your style because after a while, she will say you don’t love her and she will dump you on that basis. So show her enough love to seem like you care but not too much to where you a pathetic sop begging for validation every day.
On the other hand, the bit of distance makes her chase you and shows her you are not a desperate, pathetic idiot. No matter how hard you fall for her, never act like a desperate idiot who needs to talk to her all day long. You can say “I love you” especially if you are in the habit of saying that to each other, but don’t say it too much or you sound weak and pathetic. Never ask her if she loves you or not. It’s a dumb question and it makes you seem weak and wimpy. If she says she loves you, then she most likely does, so why ask like a wuss? If she falls out of love with you, she will stop saying “I love you,” guaranteed. Women, especially older women, don’t toss that phrase around.
Never ask her if you are nice or not. That’s pathetic. The main thing to keep in mind is to not act desperate or pathetic no matter what. Don’t reveal any weaknesses at all early on and only discuss strengths. If you have a life history of failure, rewrite it and create a fake history of success for yourself. You are now literally recreating an alternative past for yourself. It’s hard to do but if you are a devious bad boy type, you can probably do it, and plus it will be fun to be literally living a lie, like a spy or undercover agent. Just try to keep your lies straight. Unfortunately this doesn’t work very well and sooner or later people will become suspicious of your shifting stories and start to call you a liar. Laugh when they question your lies and pretend you forgot or just say you don’t care and maybe you are a liar, ha ha. Try to keep track of which stories you have told to which people, so when you go to embellish you are not telling two different stories to one person. But when you are lying that much, you will get caught sooner or later, so you have to figure out how you will react when she calls you a liar or catches you in a lie. Main thing is to not angry and instead just laugh, make some dumb excuse, admit to being a liar and laugh about it, etc. Try to figure out how you will react in the best way when people catch you in your lies. Try different responses and see how well they work and modify accordingly.
Keep your failures to yourself and never reveal them even to your best girlfriend. After a while, you can slowly release some of the bad things that happened to you. You can even put yourself down and insult yourself a bit, especially if you don’t believe it. You can reveal weaknesses, but do it slowly, don’t cray and don’t act pathetic.
Be careful about revealing your worst Achilles Heels because she will store these in a database in her head and whip them out and start shooting nuclear weapons right at your most ultra-sensitive areas when she gets angry. I call this “trying to get murdered,” and women actually do try to get murdered all the time.
Don’t hit her unless she hits you and then don’t hit back very hard.
Even with a girlfriend, seduce her properly at the right times and appropriate places. Don’t act like you are desperate for sex all the time. Act like you could care less if you have sex with her or not and act like you are leaving it up to her. Make her seduce you.
Have sex with her a lot or all the time, but don’t make a big deal out of it. Treat it like you treat drinking a glass of water. This will rev her up and make her want to do it all the time too. Don’t ask her if she’s horny or not. Never ask her if she wants to have sex. Just start touching her, kissing her or whatever you do. Never ask permission to touch her, kiss her, etc. inside or outside of bed as long as you are doing normal things.
If you want to do specific sex acts, talk about them beforehand and discuss. Say, “If I ever do or say something you don’t like, let me know.” Don’t act too depraved or evil in bed. Don’t hatefuck her, although some like it. Even if you engage in rough sex, tell her it’s just a game and then treat her like she’s a princess you worship outside of bed. Rough stuff is fun in bed, but if you are treating her like shit all the time, you are way off in BD/SM land, and you just lost me.
