Ever been so lonely it hurt? Living alone and single, I have. Yet, never have I thought, “I need a man, time to Google a prison roster!” Not that I didn’t inadvertently end up with a Con anyway. But, I certainly didn’t set out to find one! Or did I? Can a person desire hurt, pain, and abuse without knowing it’s what they desire? All the while believing, they’re looking for the opposite (love, affection, and security)? It turns out, according to the Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome, it may be plausible.
Let’s define Convict in technical terms: “A convict is “a person found guilty of a crime and sentenced by a court” or “a person serving a sentence in prison”, sometimes referred to in slang as simply a “con”(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Convict ).
I however, define the word differently. A Con is also a “Hustler”. A person who lies and baits others (tells them what they want to hear) so they can abscond with their property, heart, and trust. A Con does not have to be convicted of a crime –their actions prove a Convict mentality –they’ve just not gotten caught. In fact, those Cons who haven’t gotten caught are most dangerous; there’s a reason they’ve not gotten caught! Desirable catch? Not to most.
Now, back to the subject at hand; women who look for mates through the prison system. A maximum security prison is, a high-tech dating site to those inflicted with Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome! There are actually women who seek out murders, rapists, and a thug-type mentality. Some women think of themselves as Saviors; all he needs is her -her love will change him! Convicts love women like these. They can easily manipulate (con) them. Soon, the “Mark” (woman) is sending money, pictures, and private information. Some women go extreme, marrying these inmates. Convicts such as Charles Manson, and Jeffery Dahmer are some hot-picks from the prison roster.
The technical definition of Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome is: “Hybristophilia was defined by the sexologist Professor John Money as a sexual paraphilia in which an individual derives sexual arousal and pleasure from having a sexual partner who is known to have “committed an outrage or crime, such as rape, murder, or armed robbery.” This type of paraphilic behavior is sometimes colloquially known as ‘Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome.’ (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-excess/201310/passion-victim )
As with any disorder, symptoms vary with patient. Many of these women marry Convicts knowing they’re never getting out of prison. Cons known as ‘lifers’. Theories as to why certain patients pick ‘lifers’ vary. These women seem extremely narcissist in nature. In their mind, this man is dependent on them; sending money –even visiting. And, in a sense he is. Where conjugal visits are allowed –‘Bonnie’ gets pregnant. Without a thought of the child’s welfare –a bastard child at best! A societal leach; born without consideration. And, the narcissism doesn’t stop there.
These women raise their children aimlessly. No direction, no affection; they’re incapable of loving anyone but themselves (most are incapable of loving themselves). Hence the word narcissist. Cause and effect is certainly evident in society’s downfall. Couple narcissism with Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome, and it’s certain disaster. Not just for the patient/child, but, society as a whole.
Is there treatment and recovery for such a destructive disorder? Yes. However, long-term success is rare. Treatments include:
“**Treatment is generally not sought out unless required to do so by legal action.
- Psychotherapy: cognitive behavioral therapy, orgasmic reconditioning, individual expressive-supportive psychotherapy
- Group therapy: 12 step program (like AA but for sex addicts)
- Hypnosis
- Medications: antidepressants, medical castration, ant androgens, phenothiazine, mood stabilizers” (http://lovearthistory.hubpages.com/hub/psyhparaphilia )
Women who actually accept their infliction and seek treatment, struggle greatly. Changing a deep-seated way of thinking is nearly impossible. Especially for the mentally ill. Their thinking is skewed by chemical imbalances, reconditioning is complicated at best. A lifetime of treatment is likely necessary.
For more on this subject go to: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-excess/201310/passion-victim
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