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Control Your Anger Before It Controls You …

By Gran13

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Anger is a normal, usually healthy human emotion but if it gets out of control, it turns destructive and can lead to problems at work, in personal relationships and destroy a person’s quality of life.

We have all felt angry at one time or another, usually as a fleeting emotion but it can develop into a full-fledged rage.

Anger is an emotional state and like other emotions, is accompanied by physiological changes. Anger causes our blood pressure and causes our heart rate and adrenaline levels to rise.

We can be angry at a specific person like a co-worker, angry due to an incident like a traffic blockage or a delayed flight. Or, it can be caused by one’s personal problems. Memories of enraging or traumatic events can also trigger feelings of anger.

If someone is rude to you, does this ignite a desire for revenge? If your partner fails to wash the dishes when you think he/she should do so, do you become hostile? Remember that this hostility can wear away at your immune system, causing illness and a reduction in the quality of your life.

An instinctive way of expressing our anger is to respond aggressively, so a certain amount of anger is necessary for survival.

On the other hand, it is not acceptable to lash out at a person who irritates us. We  all need to learn how to be civil and deal with our emotions in constructive ways. Remember all the times you have seen someone behind the wheel of a car losing patience, becoming angry and as a result, causing accidents.

Expressing our anger in an assertive, non-aggressive manner is the healthiest way of getting it out. To do this, we have to learn to make clear what our needs are and how we can get them met without hurting anyone else. Being assertive does not mean being pushy. When this does not work, someone is going to get hurt. If a person has trouble controlling their tempers, if they get mad and then regret it later, or if your near and dear ones comment on your anger, then it is time to do something about it.

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