Steve writes:
A society where 20% of men have a harem and 60-80% of men aren’t getting laid is a complete fiction.
Yet apparently at least statistically, this is what is happening on Ok Cupid. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men according to studies, leaving 80% of the men to battle over 20% of the women. And it looks like there is 60% lockout.
If you think it’s complete nonsense, why don’t you go on those dating sites and see how you do? Ever been on a dating site? I have been on lots of them. Hint: Dating sites are the biggest cockfests in town.
I have always known that of course 60% of men are not being locked out of the dating market. For instance, in my neighborhood, I would say that nearly 100% of the men around here have a woman. There’s no such thing as a man without a woman around these parts. If you are a man without a woman, people think you are really weird, and if you are White, they say you are a “pedophile” or “predator” simply because you don’t have a woman.
So 60% lockout is not happening here. However, most of the women these guys are with look pretty awful. Hambeasts, landwhales and other monstrosities abound.
There is some general truth to Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. When I was in high school, I looked around and said, “You know what? This is crazy. 10% of the guys are getting 90% of the (best) girls.” I didn’t even know what Alpha fucks, Beta bucks even was.
Yet we keep on hearing this. Someone on Spearhead said they had just gotten out of law school. They said most of the people there were going back to school, often in their late 20’s to early 30’s. They said that over the course of the time they were there, they witnessed almost all of the best women cycle through about 15% of the men at least once. They often didn’t stay with them long, but they did cycle through them. So the top 15% of the men at the law school got 100% of the best women at the school.
This sort of thing is true as sort of a “general truism.” You out and talk to some men sometimes. The more experience a man has with women, the more he is going to agree with Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. The men who don’t agree with it often don’t have a Hell of a lot of experience with women. Who should I listen to, the man who has lots of experience with women or the one who has little?
A society where 20% of men have a harem and 60-80% of men aren’t getting laid is a complete fiction.
You say that a society where 40% of them have a harem and 60% are locked out is science fiction, but do you realize that this is exactly what mankind has been like for most of our history. In the Paleolithic, almost all adult females bred. But only 40% of the men bred. It’s logical to assume that 40% of the men monopolized all of the women leaving the other 60% with zero. This would not be unusual at all as harems and mass lockouts are very common in higher mammals – see elk and seals.
