You’ve Been Dumped: Dealing with Rejection
Life doesn’t always go as planned. The same can also be said about our romantic lives. In the midst of dealing with all of the other bullshit that dating may throw our way, we also have to come up with ways to deal with rejection properly. I have come to realize that some people don’t handle rejection well. There are times in everyone’s life when we get dumped, we like someone more than like us, or we date only to find out that their really not interested. All of these actions can lead to us feeling rejected and kicked to the damn curb. This is especially true if you’re use to being the dumper and not the dumpee. I’ve discovered 5 great ways to help us when dealing with rejection.
Acknowledge That You’ve Been Rejected
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you’re hurt and feel rejected. Acknowledge your feelings and find some way to get it out. I write these posts for others to read but you’ll be amazed at how much I help myself sometimes by writing for others. Journaling your thoughts help you to get your feelings out on paper. However, if you’re angry try taking a class that allows you to hit shit. Try kick boxing or martial arts. Not only will you get a good work out but you have an outlet to help get rid of some of that anger. If you don’t want to take a class, buy a teddy bear and beat the hell out of it until you feel better. Nobody has to know that you’re at home beating up a teddy bear.
Be the better person
When we’re hurt we have a tendency of doing things that are stupid. It is not wise to go on an all out slander mission. Don’t go around talking about your sexual escapades and how this person all of sudden didn’t measure up. Don’t go around claiming someone is gay or lesbian when you know it’s a lie (Kenya Moore, RHOA) and don’t write songs entitled “I Hit it First” (Ray J.). Just because someone no longer wants to be with you doesn’t give you the right to start lying. Be the bigger and better person and deal with it in a classy manner. Don’t fret though because you can yell these things to the teddy bear I told you to buy in the previous paragraph.
Positive thinking
I like to think that rejection sometimes equal protection. When things don’t go as planned, it’s generally for a reason. Rejection can sometimes be a great thing if it’s saving you from making a huge mistake. If you and someone are meant to be together it will happen. If not, it won’t; people are placed in your life for a reason and removed for an even better one. Don’t waste time with negative thoughts of rejection. Instead focus on the fact that someone better is out there for you.
Don’t take it Personal
Rejection should not put you in a place to question your own self worth. One of the major life lessons that I’ve learned is to not take things personally. Don’t adopt a sense of worthlessness and lay around with a quart of chocolate ice cream. From a personal stand point; not taking things personally has made me a happier person. Dating is bitter sweet, sometimes it’s good, sometimes it bad. When you put yourself out there you have to be able to understand that things won’t go as you thought and that at some point you will feel rejected.
Don’t Crawl Under a Rock
Rejection can sometimes turn people into cowards. You should never get to the point that you fear putting yourself out there. How do you expect to win the race if you throw in the towel? Knowing that we can deal with whatever comes our way gives us confidence to get out there again.
Embrace rejections and consider it a life lesson.
Has there ever been a time you felt rejected? How did you deal with it?
