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When Blogging Makes You Feel Lonely & Not Accepted

By Therealsupermum @TheRealSupermum

Can you remember why you started a blog? What was your goal? Did you even have a goal? Did you just want a space to write down your thoughts, something to look back upon?

When did blogging become such a competition?

After a conversation on Twitter, yes I started it by moaning that yet again the Tots 100 top 10 were all the same old names, I don’t know if they are because I no longer bother reading it. Why? Because I got fed up of seeing the same old bloggers. It seemed I was not the only one who thought that way.

It seems to be that you need to be a popular blogger to be in with any chance of being noticed and more so accepted. I have spoken with other bloggers who like me do not feel part of the elite blogging community and feel some what intimidated by the top bloggers.

When Blogging Makes You Feel Lonely & Not Accepted

It can be difficult for newer bloggers to feel able to jump in and get involved, but I guess that’s the best way to do it. Join in with the forums and the link ups and the carnivals. Talk to as many bloggers as you can, even if they do ignore you.

Get your name and blog in the blogging eye and start believing that you do deserve to be there with them.

I stopped getting involved with blogging things after a few took a dislike to me, I was pushed out and was banished with a big black mark, Well guess what, I am still here.

How do you become a popular blogger? I guess a top blogger has to accept you into their circle, who will then introduce you to their circle of friends. I was never accepted, no invitation was given. I stood out like a sore thumb. But I soon learned, after throwing tantrums and spitting my dummy out of the pram a few times, that blogging is like real life, we cant please everyone.

If you try to jump into a Twitter chat and your ignored it can be hurtful and I often sat there thinking why is nobody replying. That soon became easy to deal with, if they were ignorant I unfollowed them, after shouting “ Oi I am talking to you”.

While many of the mommy bloggers blog about the latest baby pram or what is happening at the playgroup, there I am editing another anonymous heartbreaking post about a women on the brink of suicide and self harming, this is my world. I am more comfortable talking about mental illness than I am about shoes. But that is me and I will change what I do and enjoy doing and neither should you.

Do you have to fit a certain niche to be accepted? No I think your face and name have to stick . That does not mean you are on your own, there are so many bloggers out there right now feeling lost and confused, that we should all start making more time and offering a hand of friendship.

There is plenty of place and space for blogs of every kind and each of us is talented in our own right and has something that nobody else has. Be yourself and your blog will shine through.

I am going to make more of an effort and get involved, I am inviting you to come along for the ride with me. Start tweeting other bloggers, posting more blogs, joining in on forums and writing guest posts, re tweeting other bloggers and reading more blogs.

 Are you with me on this? 

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