Dating Magazine

The Shallow Hal Syndrome – Should Looks Really Matter?

By Shauntee @shaunteebattie

The Shallow Hal Syndrome – Should Looks Really Matter?Shallow-The act of judging people by their looks, monetary status, clothes or car, rather than looking deep inside at their heart, personality, etc.

Shallow Hal is one of my favorite movies, not to mention, I like Jack Black. Although it was meant to be a comedy the movie shed light on how beneficial it could be to look beyond someone’s physical imperfections to really get a good glimpse on what’s on the inside. How many times have you been out and spotted a man or a woman out with their partner and thought one of them in your eyes was not that attractive? You then wonder to yourself “what are they doing together”…don’t act like you haven’t done that, at some point in our lives we all have. The one thing I do know is that no one is physically perfect as humans we were not designed to all look alike, we are all unique in our own way. Now in my world that’s a good thing because having people who all look and act alike would bore the hell out of me. I like variety!

Unfortunately, we live in a society where the media has given us a certain image of what is supposed to be attractive. We also live in a world where many people also care about what others think and how their partner will be perceived by others. First, the image that the media gives you does not exist; models are trimmed down, airbrushed, and photo-shopped to look that way. Just the other day I viewed a picture from a friend of mine who made a 200 lb woman look like she weighed about 120. I gave up caring about what people thought of me years ago and because of that I’m a much happier person. Ask yourself these questions, if you live your life based off what society thinks of you or what your family and friends think of you and what’s acceptable to them then who are you? What are your likes and dislikes? What is it that you desire? Here’s my rule to friendship, a true friend will only be concerned about your happiness not what someone looks like or how much money they have. Thus, the Shallow Hal syndrome! We all have preferences and I’m sure some will argue “well it’s my personal preference” If your preference concerns money, looks, & status with very little concern for what’s on the inside…that’s shallow all day and all night. Honesty, integrity, and someone with a genuine concern for your well being, those are preferences.

In the past, I have met some very and I do mean VERY attractive people and after I got to know them guess what? They weren’t that attractive anymore, sure they looked good as hell on my arm but personality wise they simply was not there. Their social skills sucked, they couldn’t hold a good conversation, and some of them was just downright cocky…can you say major turn off. I have literally gone out with someone and took them around my friends and family and they have made some of the dumbest comments I have ever heard in my life. If you’re with someone and they make a statement and everyone in the room gets quiet and look at each other…….you know they said some dumb shit! I have dated people who were financially well off and guess what…that didn’t cure the asshole syndrome. Good looks does not exclude anyone from being crazy as hell, crazy does not discriminate. If you have spent your life dating based off looks and monetary gain and it hasn’t worked out for you now you know why, you’re looking for the wrong things and when you look for the wrong things you attract the wrong people!

The next time you meet someone and you feel they have a flaw whether they’re a little overweight, their nose is larger than what you’re use to, maybe their driving a Trailblazer instead of a Range Rover, and they’re not as attractive as you feel they should be. Take a moment and think to yourself am I 100% perfect without flaws, do I have skin as smoothe as a baby ass, am I perfectly proportioned? Probably not! Take the time to get to know someone before you make a decision as to whether or not they’re good for you. You’ll find that if they are, those flaws won’t matter anymore. As far as what your friends and family think, who cares! Your friends and family will have you single permanently! Honestly, how many of them are in healthy relationships at the moment?

Back to Featured Articles on Logo Paperblog
By Kacey Stevens
posted on 22 April at 15:25

In this article you are just as shallow as a good-looking person. People assume that good-looking people are somehow personality flawed which is a way of protecting yourself and feeling good about being ugly. Someone can be beautiful and have a great personality. Sorry to disappoint you.