When a break up occurs people often consider giving it another chance. As I stated previously, break ups suck big time. But sometimes going back to an ex can be even worse. An ex is an example of what you don’t need in your life. Generally the second or third time around isn’t any better. There are of course exceptions, especially if it’s someone you were involved with in High School or College and you reconnected later on in life after you both have matured. If your break up was caused by major drama you better believe the shit will hit the fan once again. People will show you the side they think you want to see and then a few months later history will repeat itself. You will be stuck in the same pattern over and over and over again. So now if you’re considering going back to an ex, you need to ask yourself a few simple questions:
Why do I want this person back?
When we were together, did this person truly have my back?
Why did we break up?
What is their story? Reasons why they feel it didn’t work out and how have you both changed since the relationship ended?
Can I see myself once again in a committed relationship with this person?
Did others play a role in your break up? Do they still keep the same company?
In closing, I can only speak from personal experience. Each relationship is different and has its own dynamic. I personally don’t maintain any close relationships with anyone I’ve broken up with. I believe in moving forward and not backwards. It is very difficult to work on yourself and get over things if you can’t let the people go who caused you pain to begin with. Choose your battles wisely! People are placed in your life for a reason and removed for an even better one. There are exceptions to this, but two people must be willing to put in the work so that history will not repeat itself.
Have you ever gotten back with an ex and it worked out?
