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TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron: My Hair Story

By Mamakbest @mamakbest

I started this post a few weeks ago to pay homage to my Trinidad curls and the magical way they behaved amidst the warm weather, sunshine and beaches.  After my curls went a little crazy in Mexico, I was looking forward to a better hair vacation.  As I began writing the post, I realized the transition is complete and now I can fully appreciate what happens here on out!  Now…looking back on it, I laugh at myself and the pictures I once deemed “curly hair” pics but as with everything in life, everything happens when it when it should and for me, it couldn’t have been more perfect timing.

As far as perming/chemically straightening my hair, I would probably have about 2, maybe 3 perms a year so giving up perming my hair wasn’t a big deal.  In 2009, after a long stint without a perm, I just decided to keep rolling with it.  But get this (this is what makes me laugh/shudder), I had just bought a super fancy flat-iron so I thought it was perfect, I would no longer perm my hair but would let it air dry and then would flat-iron it and have perfectly straight hair.   The ease of flat ironing my hair is what caused me to never even look back or consider a perm.

Alas, my flat-iron was what was the bigger deal for me to give up.  Honestly,  it also just didn’t click for me.  I know,  I know… everyone talks about heat damage and giving up heat and how blow outs damage your hair and flat irons are the devil for curls but in my mind, my “straight” hair was healthy!  I didn’t have damage so what was this “heat damage” everyone was talking about?!  I heard and thought I grasped the idea, I thought I understood  what “damaging the curl pattern” meant…so I thought letting my hair air dry and THEN flat ironing it was less damaging.  I mean, it is… less heat… but um yeah, not so much.  My poor curls were still being damaged.   Throughout the three years, I was working on my curls.  I have always had stints of time when I wore my hair curly so I was doing the same things I had always done.  With the rise of new products and the increase of friends transitioning, we talked hair constantly.  (Right… so nothing has changed)  I laugh because I definitely think patience and a good camera are the two most important things you need to transition!  LOL.

Speaking of pictures… they tell the story far better than I can:

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April 30, 2012: This picture was taken before my first appointment at Devachan. This is how my hair dried naturally without product.

I was so excited about my Devachan haircut, I had started using their conditioner and had fallen in love with it!  I felt for the first time, I had found a product that made my curls better.  (Yeah, I know it doesn’t seem that way in the picture, but trust me, it was happening!)   The Devachan experience was great, it was slightly annoying because people kept telling me I still had a good amount of permed ends and well… that just wasn’t true.  (My color indicated where my hair growth was for me because I colored it well after I started this process).  Anyhoo… they chopped, colored and educated me on their Devachan process.

But after the cut, nothing major happened, I was still left with barely there curls.  So I went back to straightening it.  I would try but it just didn’t look cute so I would go back to my faithful flat-iron, which never failed me!  I spent the summer going back and forth.  I would probably wear it straight once a month.

August 29, 2012

August 29, 2012: One of my last blowouts. I liked my straight hair. It was full and healthy but dammit… my curls couldn’t coexist.

TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
September 22, 2012: Things were getting better.
TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story

September 27, 2012: The curls were starting to really show.

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TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
October 6, 2012: Wash and Go… if I had wavy hair.
TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story

October 16, 2012: Frustrated, I just started cutting my hair. I decided the ends just needed to go!

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TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
November 1, 2012: Just kept cutting, it was easy, the curls and the straight parts made it clear where to cut! November 1, 2012: Just kept cutting, it was easy, the curls and the straight parts made it clear where to cut!
TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
December 1, 2012 After the new year, I would still cut a few pieces every now and then but everything was great!  I just needed to wait patiently for the curls to continue developing and they have done so very nicely.   Mexico was a great, weird boost for the curls and Trinidad made them even better, but that is a post for another time!
TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
February 18, 2013: Post Mexico and first time use of a great Mane Concern conditioner!
TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
February 18, 2013: Post Mexico and first time use of a great Mane Concern conditioner! Dude… seriously? It does this?!! I was thrilled! Fast forward to now… I’ve cut just about all the color out and am at the point I originally imagined… wash and go and the curls just do their thing and I’m thoroughly obsessed… shocking!  Haha.  I did take the long path down the transition road but I’m thrilled to have finally arrived.   I have talked so many different people through their paths and for everyone it is different.  But whew… whatever gets you there, do it!
March 29, 2013:  Just under 6 months since I cut it and abandoned my flat iron!

March 29, 2013: Just under 6 months since I started cutting it and abandoned my flat-iron and just under a year since the first Devachan cut.

TBT: Abandoning the Flat Iron:  My Hair Story
In the last year, I have cut all of the hair from the first picture! Crazy! Cheers to happy, healthy hair… however you choose to rock it!  xoxo- Kellie

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