Sometimes I feel like I have no friends.
I moved away from home for a couple of years, and now that I’m back, sometimes it feels like I spend all of my time alone. The people in my life are busy – both my family and my friends – and I certainly don’t expect people to spend all of their free time with me.
And also, not everyone is going to like me. And I get that.
But sometimes, when my friends are hanging out and I wasn’t invited, or when I spend yet another night at home alone, it feels like no one likes me. It feels like I moved back here for nothing.
It’s hard to be an adult, you guys. It’s hard to know that sometimes you aren’t going to get to hang out with people but that doesn’t mean they don’t like you, and it doesn’t mean you don’t have friends. It can be easy to return to the low self-esteem days of your middle and high school years when people don’t hang out with you – trust me. It’s awful, but it happens.
I don’t tell you all of this to make anyone feel bad for me or to make any of my friends feel like they have to spend time with me. I just want you to know, if you feel like you have no friends, you’re not alone. We all go through those moments sometimes.
Sometimes the best thing to do when you’re feeling lonely is to take care of yourself. To “treat yo self,” as Donna and Tom (Parks & Recreation) would say. So do what I’m going to do. Buy yourself your favorite beverage at Starbucks. Take yourself out to lunch. Pamper yourself with weekend away, or just an hour of silence, if you can. Breathe.
And remember, even if it feels like no one wants to be your friend, there is always someone that does. They may not be around right now, or they might be around but they might be busy, but don’t worry, they’ll be around soon enough. Keep loving yourself, that’s the important part. The rest can come later.
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