For all the
fashionistas my dress is Finders Keepers.
I went to an engagement party last night held for two of my very good friends, and it was an eyeopener. I'm known amongst my friend group for my joking cynicism about whether someone in the world exists who is mad enough to keep me interested. And to be honest, of late, my life has been so full that I haven't been looking for anything definitive. I am a firm believer, that happiness radiates from an internal place and can not be bought and should not be supplied fully by the pleasures of another. Well ok, pleasure and buying a great cup of coffee definitely boosts the happy hormones, however, that is exactly what they are, pleasures, not happiness.
But...and there is a big but. I am still a true romantic underneath all the tough facade. I love the idea, one day, of meeting that person who has the same sick sense of humor as mine. Who still finds me beautiful when I'm at my worst (like right now after too much Merlot last night). The man I can talk to for hours about meaningless things like.. 'I wish milk was still delivered in glass bottles...' 'yea me too, that would be sweet!'. The person who is there to wrap you up in the night when you are cold and text you winky faces in the middle of the day for no reason...just because he misses his bud. But most of all, that person who is there to look after you when you fall down and the amazing feeling of being able to give that back to them when they need it.
As I watched these two friends last night, a butterfly that has long been asleep in my stomach, awoke, stretched, and flapped his wings quietly. And I realised, although there is no rush for me at this stage of my life, there's a person for absolutely everyone. And as with surfing, the search can be just as fun as the ride.
I've always raved about the magic of a first kiss, but how lovely to think that one day, I will have my very last first kiss and that will be with my person.
I came across this piece written by Brad Pitt about Angelia Jole. And I think it is the most beautiful thing I have read in a long time. Often, relationships fail, because one person falls and instead of picking them up, the other turns away. This is a lesson, that during those times when your partner seems to be lost, they really need some extra love to help them find their way.
Bit of love and guts for your Sunday.
Mwah XX
Brad Pitt About His Wife :
"My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children.
She has lost 30 pounds and weighted about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman.
She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs. She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day.
Our relationship was on the verge of break up. Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself.
She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role. I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…
But then I decided to act on it. After all I've got the most beautiful woman on the earth. She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders.
I began to pamper her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised her and pleased her every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.
You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much.
And then I realized one thing: The woman is the reflection of her man.
If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it. " - Brad Pitt, A Secret of Love
