For instance I am adducing a very common norm of the society…when two person get into an alliance after marrying, whose surname does the girl takes? Doesn’t she take the surname of her spouse? Have you ever heard of the situation where the reverse happens…yes exceptions are there but I am talking of the generic customs of the society...I hope i have elucidated my first statement but my intentions are not to validate my view…but citing many other fatal circumstances which arise from a single individual…and sorting ways of eradicating it.
Coming back to marriages a trend that has evolved recently in India is that a girl retains her initial surname and thus has two surnames to go with…one is of her spouse and the other of her parents…This is indeed a step to equality among the genders but with this comes much more enigmas. What would be the child’s surname if the girl has two surnames? Will the child inherit her father or mother’s surname? Inter caste marriages have a similar dilemma… which religion does the child follow? Will he/she follow one of their parents religion or both? If the child opts for both the religions…then what will be the future of his/her offspring? Will they follow the same preaching?
It does tell that we have become broad with our thinking and we have gone above gender, caste or even communalism and treat each person as equal irrespective of his/her class. But this cannot go on for unlimited time and there’s no way out if we don’t go for a common preaching.
When a person visits any Latin American or African country...it’s our general convention that we look for people who belong to our native country as a companion…if we don’t find any we find any person who is from south Asia...well this is just an example to show how people behave when his surroundings change...we broaden ourselves when we are in unfamiliar territory…but why are we fighting among fellow Indians over petty things when we are in our own motherland?
If I am not wrong…no religion teaches violence though all of them preach brotherhood, peace and solidarity so why are we not following the preachings of our religion if we are really religious?
Casteism was created in an era when a group of people where divided according to their work field. But in today’s scenario no such obligations or rule states that one has to follow their ancestors for their future career. So in real sense casteism doesn’t exist at all…so why are we rigid over an outdated community which doesn’t exist anymore?
According to the republic of India every Indian has the right to live in any part of the country where he/she wishes to live…and if we see the practicality of the situation we will see no class/races are confined to any specific region…as such regionalism is long forgotten past…so why are we still creating a stir based on Regionalism or races?
People may laugh reading the lines below but it tells us how confined we are as Indians…and this confinement is not with any physical obstruction but with our thinking.
Interviewer : what’s your name
Applicant: my name is V.I.J.A.Y surname Indian
Interviewer: so your name is Vijay?
Applicant: No sir, my name is Vincent(Christian).Issan(Buddhist).Jaspreet(Sikh).Amar(Hindu).Yusuf(Islam) INDIAN
Interviewer: where are you from?
Applicant: I am from CNSWE India
Interviewer: where is it?
Applicant: it’s Central North South West East India.
Interviewer: which religion do you follow?
Applicant : Humanism
Interviewer: So Mr V.I.J.A.Y you have been rejected for the post.
Applicant: I knew it sir, I only wanted to know whether the recruitment is for an Indian who may be anyone belonging to any part of the country following any religion or a person whom the society recognizes…by a name, caste or religion. Thank you sir I got my answer.
I won’t tell you the name or any whereabouts of that person but I should inform you all after the interview he was selected for IAS.
India, which is known for Unity in diversity…no other country in this world, has this unique combination of people ranging from different religions, cultures and castes...but with all these diversities there is also a diversion among the people…this ramification is because of communalism, regionalism and casteism which unfortunately we Indians are very proud off…but if we look deep down we realize if we really want India as One republic of equality preached among its individual we have to look for sustained steps to cater our unity.
I know if I go on with the discussion of removal of communalism, regionalism or casteism, It would mean cremating myself as if I am willingly going to a sandpit as it would result into mass turning up against me…with rage and ferocious hostility, violence may also creep up. So, as a peace loving citizen I would only speak of a betterment of the country or the world as a whole.
Everyday…when I read newspaper or any article…it seems to me as if it’s became mandatory to hear about the acts of Violence from across the world. It really agitates me when I hear about all these hostility. We are well aware of what had happened with the 2 world wars…and it’s also known if there’s any 3rd world war no civilization on this earth would survive…
So it’s my earnest request to one and all…Spread Love, Humanity, Brotherhood, Peace among the people…it’s the only way, we human can Live
“ ‘I’ stands for both Individual as well as Integrity…it’s always the way you see it…either it’s Integrity as an individual or Individual as a part of Integrity…!!! “
Quotes to follow:
Those who act kindly in this world will have kindness.
– Qur'an 39.10
He who experiences the unity of life sees his own Self in all beings...
– Buddha
I consider myself a Hindu, Christian, Muslim, Jew, Buddhist and Confucian.
— Mahatma Gandhi
True religion is real living; living with all one's soul,
with all one's goodness and righteousness.
— Albert Einstein
Be the change you wish to see reflected in the world.
— Mahatma Gandhi
Everybody thinks of changing humanity
and nobody thinks of changing himself.
— Leo Tolstoy
