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The only negative for me is that I feel isolated as a stay at home mom. As a family we are limited to what we can do with my partner struggling to walk and my oldest has a lot of bad behavior problems – Says Shona
I’m Shona, I’m 20 and I live in Barnsley, South Yorkshire with my partner Tom, my little girl Aimee Jay aged 3 and my baby Katy Joan who is 21 months. I became a stay at home mom at the age of 17.
I lived with my mom at the time and moved in with my partner when my daughter was 9 months. We met after a bad break up with my eldest daughter’s dad.
At the time he was employed working 40 hours each week and I stayed home with Aimee and fell pregnant again. My partner was born with Talipes (of which I have always been aware) and shortly after Katy was born was made redundant.
He has been in and out of employment since, but struggles to work due to arthritis in his ankle caused by the operations he has had thanks to Talipes.
I defiantly enjoy being a stay at home mum, the firsts are the best bit for me, the first words, steps and then being there for potty training.
I feel isolated as a stay at home mom says Shona
The only negative for me is that I feel isolated as a stay at home mom. As a family we are limited to what we can do with my partner struggling to walk and my oldest has a lot of bad behavior problems.
The most rewarding part for me is how my children mirror me because we have a strong bond. They finish my sentences sometimes and mimic me while playing with their dolls BUT that is also the thing I find most difficult.
For example if Aimee throws something and I say “Aimee you do not throw” she will reply with “yeah you will go on the naughty step or be to bed, but I am still not going to listen mam” and that’s where I start to lose control of things a bit.
I definitely believe stay at home mums are underestimated, I think people just assume that children raise themselves and we sit back twiddling our thumbs all day.
Anyone thinking of becoming a stay at home mom should definitely weigh up the pros and cons first.
It’s very rewarding seeing your children reach every milestone, being there at the good times are amazing, although you should make sure your aware of the lack of support. I haven’t seen my health visitor in 9 months.
Where I live there isn’t any children’s groups that fit around my schedule, as my eldest is at nursery.
My friends live an hour away so getting to see them is expensive and our commitments clash so we often go months only communicating through Facebook.
As a stay at home family it’s hard to get out and socialise and a drastic change and a shock to the system. You can often feel isolated as a stay at home mom.
