© Kaylie & Riley
The negatives of being a stay at home mum I must say are when Riley has an off day and does nothing but misbehave and feeling like your on your own – Says Kaylie
My partner and I have been together 7 years July this year. We have a little boy called Riley who’s 2 and a half, will be 3 in June. We are from Tipton in the West Midlands, I’m 23 and Jay is 24. I became a stay at home mum in May 2011 when Riley turned 10 months.
Before he was born I was doing my hairdressing level 2 and I was determined to pass level 3 which I did. In April 2010 I went back to work at a hairdressers who said he would have to let me go as she said she couldn’t afford to keep me, so in May of that year I became a stay at home mom.
I enjoy being a stay at home mum as I can spend time with Riley and watch him grow and achieve new things and all the housework is done daily.
I’d said the positives would have to be seeing Riley hitting his milestones and being able to do things that I know Riley enjoys and to be able to tell Jay what he has been doing with me all day.
The negatives of being a stay at home mum I must say are when Riley has an off day and does nothing but misbehave and feeling like your on your own.
The friends you thought you had really wasn’t really friends as they just make excuses up not to come (because I have a child)
So I make it my upmost priority that Riley gets to meet other children his age or younger and mommy gets to have an adult conversation when we go to the local stay and plays/parent and toddler groups in our area, where I’ve meet some fantastic mummy’s and nanny’s.
I find the most rewarding thing being a stay at home mum is seeing Riley so happy and knowing he enjoys spending time with me and that he’s got all my attention.
I find being a stay at home mum difficult when Riley’s misbehaving or if he is Ill,.
I think some people do underestimate how hard it is being a stay a home mum; I think my partner thinks I sit on my ass all day doing nothing, when really I’m trying to do the housework so the house is clean and tidy, look after the family dog as well as Riley.
To anyone thinking of becoming a SAHM I think my advice would have to be finding out where all the stay and plays/parent and toddler groups in the area.
I’ve found this is the best thing to do to stop you going loopy from always seeing the same walls day in day out and you will also get to meet new people and your children get to mix with children the same age or younger/older.
The greatest thing about having Riley is he helped me meet my best friend, if it wasn’t for him I think I’d be on my own and have no real friends. The In-laws helped us buy our house so we have our own family home and if they hadn’t I wouldn’t be living opposite my best friend’s mother-in-law and we wouldn’t have met.
I love to read books on my ereader and go out every now and then with a few girlie friends (these friends are a little older than me but I get on better with older people) and every now and then I’ll go to my favourite hairdressers and take my time when I’m there, as Riley is with daddy and having quality time.
I’ve also recently gone back to stewarding match days at my favourite football club West Bromwich Albion on match days (home only). I love being able to be just ME instead of the “oh your Riley’s mummy”.
As a stay at home mum do you ever feel like your on your own?
