I noticed a post on FaceBook that caught my eye, it was an
article on dating multiple people and the rules attached to dating multiple
people. Madame Noire is an online publication geared towards African Americans.
They posted one question on FaceBook that simply asked do you date multiple people.
So it of course it caught my eye and I begin to read the 70 comments that was
posted. I was pleasantly surprised to learn that many of the women chose not to
date multiple people and I can’t say I disagree with that. I work, go to
school, maintain this blog, and juggle time between family and friends so hell
I simply don’t have time or energy to keep up with more than one person. It
also seems that people now associate dating with sex and that simply isn’t
correct either. Dating is supposed to be a non sexual event, but just as
everything else, that now has changed.
Now in my twenties, my ass was hot to trot; I could date
multiple people, drink more, hang out until the wee hours of the morning, and
not feel the effects. I learned my lesson, when I tried to date multiple people
at the age of 33. I simply couldn’t keep up, I had to return multiple phone
calls, reply to multiple texts, include them all in my schedule, and then
remember things we had talked about…Hell I was tired just trying to get to know
people. The rules stated that you should pull your friends aside and explain to
them that you are dating multiple people and that you are bringing (insert name
here) to an event and they should keep their mouth shut. Really, it’s only a
matter of time before one of your friends slip up and says some shit. The next
rule stated that you should pay for some of the dates. Once again, do I need to
point out we’re in a recession who has money to throw around dating multiple
people and it’s not going anywhere certainly not I. Last but certainly not
least, how long do you expect to date someone before one or more wants sex?
Sleeping with multiple people at a time isn’t cool, it’s dangerous and may have
a different meaning to both parties involve. Meaning Sex can mean love for one
person and just strictly sex for the other. You want variety in your life visit
seekingo.com and hook yourself up its better than multiple sex partners and not
to mention safer. You can choose a different size and color dildo for each day of
the week!
I know most of you are probably saying well all you have to
do is be honest. I don’t care how honest you are, dating the multitude requires
some form of dishonesty and some people are really horrible liars. You either
have to lie to get off the phone so you can call someone else to give them
time. You now have to tell half truths and then eventually the shit just run
together on you because you don’t remember what you said previously. Another
thing you should be aware of is that you can’t have double standards, if you
dating others that person should be able to do the same. This is also
a sure sign of commitment resistance and emotional unavailability. Who wants to
waste time dating someone they can never be with? In closing, if you
have it in you to date multiple people by all means do your thang! I commend
you! As for me, I’ll take one person at a time because it has always been about
quality not quantity for me and the whole player mentality is played out
especially when you don’t know how to play. I simply don’t have the time to
entertain people if it’s not going anywhere because after a certain age you
begin to reflect on what’s important, but boy do I wish I was 23
again…..sometimes!
