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The times they are a changing or should I say the times have changed. Months ago, I posted a blog about how dating used to be simple. Although a relationship has never been a guarantee during any period of time we at least knew what to expect. We expected decent conversation, an actual date, and someone who at least waited a couple dates before unleashing their weirdness. Now with modern popular culture and the changes within the dating world, we should always expect the unexpected. The world has changed, dating has changed and people have changed. Leaving us baffled, confused, and scratching our heads thinking, damn what just happened here? In reflecting on my own dating experiences, I’ve come up with 5 types of people that have crossed my path during my dating adventures.
The Odd Balls
Apparently, there seems to be more odd people in the world that has crossed my path. People who believe in alien abduction, have crazy eyes, and are just plain weird. Men who stare at you with some strange look you can’t interpret and act like they’re doing you a favor even though they have mediocre qualities. I’ve had more “something is wrong with this person but I can’t quite put my finger on it “moments then I’ve cared to have in this lifetime. I even had one guy tell me he doesn’t talk a lot unless he has something epic to say. Needless to say, when he did speak, I would’ve been perfectly content with his silence.
The Date That’s Not Really a Date
My definition of a date is an evening out of the house regardless of whose house it is. We’re either going to the movies, dinner, stage play, concert or any cultural event that’s open to the public. A date is not you coming to my house to watch movies and order pizza. A date is not me coming to your house to watch a basketball game and eat Buffalo wings; it’s called having a guest over not a date. I don’t understand when and how this became an actual date for people. In my world, you can’t get an invite to my house unless you have taken me out first. People get to damn content with these so-called at home dates and then you wonder why he never wants to go anywhere.
Hello, I’m Christian Grey
Believe it or not, men like Christian Grey actually exist outside the mind of author E.L James. And one brisk fall day about 3 years ago one crossed my very path. As I previously wrote in one of my blogs, sex is not the taboo topic it once was. I learned that after dating people with weird sexual fantasies that they were very open about. I know porn has been around since….well basically forever, but people only watched then they didn’t do some of the stuff that was in the movie. When I was in my late teens early twenties people frowned upon oral sex which is now a mandate for some and a normal sexual experience. Now people are more than open with their fantasies. They will have no problem telling you they like whips, chains, leather, harnesses, cages, pain, and any other object they could think of. Sometimes it’s even too weird for me! I did find the conversation very interesting though; just not my cup of tea.
Questionable Sexuality
People are very open about their sexuality and what their preferences are these days. Homosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and as far as I’m concerned it’s here to stay. Over the recent years, straight people have begun dating, marrying, and building lives with others who are gay or lesbian….not bisexual. So my reaction when someone I’m dating tells me they use to be gay is “bullshit, you’re still gay”. I don’t believe that people can pray the gay away or that one morning you miraculously wake up and say I’m not gay anymore. However, I do believe that people try to adapt to a lifestyle that others perceive as normal so they date and marry the opposite sex for appearance sake. I would imagine that every day would be a constant struggle to hide their true identity. The only difference between the past and the present is that people are more open about it and will actually tell you about their sexuality. In the past people kept that information on the down low and you never knew until years later or either you pushed into the back of your mind. Regardless of whether past or present, everyone has the right to be happy.
I would love to hear about your modern dating experiences and how dating for you has changed over the year.
Have a Great Weekend!
