This post is an anonymous guest post
My son was born 3 years 8 monthsago now, his dad left when our son was 4 months old. I really dont know any different as in a way I have always done it on my own since I found out I was pregnant. I quit work when I found out I was pregnant due to the nature of my work it would have been dangerous and irresponible for me to carry on in that line of work.
Yes I would love to go back to work, but over the last 4 years I have had nothing but hospital appointments, doctors appointments, Health Visitor appointments, suffered domestic violence, a miscarriage and a hell of a lot of trouble with my ex that bad infact, I now have Social Serviced involved thanks to him nicely phoning them accusing me of all sorts but thats a whole other story. My son in this time has had many health issues and health scares so working for me is a mere impossibilty right now as I am needed a hell of a lot more at home than I am at work.
Besides, with the ammount of time needed off work no employer would put up with me for long. My son at his age is still constantly in and out of hospital having endless tests, then theres the doctors for his skin condition, speech an language as well as assesments from Health Visitors and Social Services. I am constantly rushed off my feet running here, there and every where, cleaning, shopping and playing with my son.
I see all to many working mums saying ‘oh my jobs so much harder because i work!’, well I am sorry love but please feel free to come do my job just for one week then tell me my job is not as hard as yours. Then there is disabled mums, how do you think they cope? its not easy for them believe me, Last year I was in hospital to have my gall bladder removed and wasn’t allowed to do as much as I normaly do on a daily basis due to my operation and it was hell, it made me realize how lucky I am to be able to do all my normal activities on a daily basis with no long term illness holding me back.
I am also going to defend mums who have disabled children my son was diagnosed as moderatly deaf at the begginging of the year, it came as a massive shock to me but also I finally had an answer as to why my sons development was slightly behind others his age. No its not easy to have a disabled child fair enough my son isnt technically 100% disabled but if it had been left any longer then it would have been a million times worse than what it was so all respect to mums of disabled kids as your job is harder than mine.
So ladies and gents there we have it, my reasons for being a stay at home mom (SAHM), yes one day I will go back to work I dont mine in all honesty, I’d love nothing more than to be given the chance to work. But right now being a SAHM is my job, its a 24 hour a day job, 7 days a week. I dont get paid that much, I dont get holidays, I’m not allowed sick days. I’m a cook, cleaner, personal assistant, securtiy, bank, teacher, nurse and probably a big bitch at times, but most of all I am a STAY AT HOME MUM and right now that suits me and my son.
