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LATEST ARTICLES ( 97 )

• All Good Things Must Come To An End

  

  This isn’t a monogamous, escalator romance. This isn’t the ending of a journey or the arrival at some kind of ‘inevitable’ dyadic partnership destination. This... Read more

  Posted on 16 February 2021 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• All Good Things Must Come To An End

  

  What would it mean to let go of this relationship path that has become so interwoven with my personal identity? What aspects would I want to maintain, and what... Read more

  Posted on 16 February 2021 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• On My 14th Wedding Anniversary

  

  Fourteen years ago today, I got married.7 years and 7 days later, I told my husband I wanted a divorce.This is why I’m celebrating my anniversary today.Yes,... Read more

  Posted on 15 August 2018 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Fuck Yes

  Today, this blog is six years old. Today, I share some recent reflections on this radical journey.~~~ I said yes to marrying my boyfriend because I was afraid... Read more

  Posted on 18 July 2018 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Polyamory and Pride

  

  This article is based on a public Facebook post I made, and adapted after much animated discussion, for which I am very grateful. You can check out the... Read more

  Posted on 09 June 2018 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Reclaiming Queerness

  

  There is so much that I want to write about right now, and I don’t know where to focus. I want to write about the excitement I feel after a day of teaching abou... Read more

  Posted on 18 February 2018 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Requiem

  

  CW: cheating, toxic masculinity, rape, abuse, silencing, minimizing, gaslighting “Our anger is deep grief and sorrow We grieve the men who could be and aren’t W... Read more

  Posted on 01 December 2017 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Spiritual Paths, Solo Polyamory, and Primary Self-Relationships

  

  “Honor your self, Worship your Self, Meditate on your Self, God dwells within you as you.” ~ Swami MuktananadaMuktananda was a controversial figure, who had a... Read more

  Posted on 01 September 2017 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• A Letter to the Magpies

  

  European folklore holds that Magpies like to steal shiny things for their nests. Although this has now been debunked by scientists and bird experts, it’s a... Read more

  Posted on 26 August 2017 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Together Independently

  

  “How do you explain to people that it is not true that you have a fiercely guarded heart? That it just feels like you have not had the space that felt safe... Read more

  Posted on 02 May 2017 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Solo, Polyamorous, and Seeking Healthy Community

  

  One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again. Abraham... Read more

  Posted on 24 March 2017 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Keeping Up With The Joneses

  

  I love Bridget Jones.If I had to pick three fictional characters I most closely resemble, she’s at the top of my list.For a chronically single 20-year-old at... Read more

  Posted on 25 September 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Keeping Up With The Joneses

  

  I love Bridget Jones.If I had to pick three fictional characters I most closely resemble, she’s at the top of my list.For a chronically single 20-year-old at... Read more

  Posted on 25 September 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Tolerating Trauma

  

  I am tolerating my trauma.As I sit down to write, anticipating the next session of the Good Girl Recovery Program, and reflecting on how my life has changed... Read more

  Posted on 17 September 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Whose Ethics Are They Anyway?

  

  I have a shocking confession to make. I’ve a problem with “Ethical Non Monogamy”. Specifically, my problem is the terminology.Ethical. What’s ethical? I ask... Read more

  Posted on 11 June 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Polyamory, Trauma, and Unmet Needs: Facing the Hydra

  

  Trauma The result of experiences that overwhelm a person’s ability to cope.I want to share something very personal with you- and I’m scared. I’m nervous that... Read more

  Posted on 12 May 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Polyamory and the Green Eyed Hydra

  

  Trauma The result of experiences that overwhelm a person’s ability to cope.  I want to share something very personal with you- and I’m scared. I’m scared that... Read more

  Posted on 12 May 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• The Slut, The Witch, and the Solo Poly Woman

  

  “Be wild; that is how to clear the river. The river does not flow in polluted, we manage that. The river does not dry up, we block it. Read more

  Posted on 03 April 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Radical Self Reliance and Community Responsibility

  

  “The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they induce in the way a... Read more

  Posted on 01 January 2016 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY

• Musings on Metamours

  

  coordinating party outfits with a former metamour, and dear friend “Metamour” (noun) The partner of your partner.Within the realm of honest non monogamy- and... Read more

  Posted on 13 September 2015 DATING, EROTICA, LOVE & SEX, RELATIONSHIPS, SEXUALITY