Kristin Davin
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Solution Focused Therapy and The Miracle Question
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Most of us have pondered what our life would be like without problems. We daydream about what a different life would look like. However, many people remain in fantasy land and don’t take the final step needed to go from the dream stage to reality. They remain stagnant.
We don’t always want to change even if we know life would be better if we did. Many people have been using the same strategies for the duration of their adulthood even though they’ve proven ineffective. They become comfortable, but stuck in a rut. At this point, Solution Focused Therapy can be helpful.
Solution Focused Therapy
Solution Focused Therapy (SFT) focuses on what people want to achieve rather than on historical problems. It works towards creating forward momentum building to a person’s ideal future. The role of the past is merely to help activate conversations about past success.
Questions about a person’s story, their strengths, resources and any exceptions to the perceived problems are part of the therapeutic process. Together, the client and therapist devise a vision of what the possible future could look like. Implementation involves setting small goals by gaining clarity and greater insight and understanding of what a different life would look like.
SFT includes a technique called the Miracle Question. Answering this question helps a person make necessary changes by going from dreams to reality and envisioning their future. The miracle question is a valuable tool especially when a person doesn’t necessarily know what a preferred future might look like.
The Miracle Question
Suppose tonight while you’re asleep, a miracle happens and the issue you’ve got is solved. What will you see yourself doing, thinking, or believing about yourself that will tell you a miracle has happened in your life?
The great thing about this question is that it allows you to imagine how your life would be if something miraculous occurred. What would your life look like if that happened? What do you want for yourself? Think about that question and take the necessary steps to achieve your goals!
LATEST ARTICLES ( 73 )
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What a Ride! Landing Safely in NYC (I Think) and Making a Few Fun Discoveries!
When I sat down to write this blog, a thought, where did THOSE 2 years go? Geeezzzz. All the changes that took place. That made me think of all those popular an... Read more
Posted on 02 July 2014 LIFE COACH -
Life Changes: Not Easy, But Necessary
One woman’s new and unchartered path in life awash with endless possibilities.. This past Saturday marked six weeks since I’ve embarked on a journey that... Read more
Posted on 27 May 2014 LIFE COACH -
Sudden Divorce Syndrome
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Posted on 06 May 2014 LIFE COACH -
11 Strategies to Help You Cope with Your Divorce
Although people do not get married expecting to divorce, they do. Although there are many articles and blogs (mine included!) about how to sustain marriage, som... Read more
Posted on 28 April 2014 DIVORCE, LIFE COACH -
Has the Three Year Itch Become the New Seven Year Itch?
“I am not in love anymore.” “I am bored with him/her.” I don’t think I can do this “monogamy thing.” Over the past several months, I have experienced an... Read more
Posted on 22 April 2014 LIFE COACH -
Set Yourself Free From Toxic Relationships
Most of us can admit to remaining in a toxic relationship well beyond its expiration date. Few of us get out unscathed in life in that department. Read more
Posted on 15 April 2014 LIFE COACH -
Compassion Fatigue and the Importance of Self Care
My recent return from a mini vacation provided unwavering clarity to the importance of self care. I relaxed, soaked in the sun, and totally decompressed. I was... Read more
Posted on 08 April 2014 LIFE COACH -
12 Ways Healthy Couples Make It Work
Relationships take work. We all know that. However, several key behaviors stand out that help couples create a healthier relationship. Read more
Posted on 31 March 2014 LIFE COACH -
Sibling Relationships and Birth Order: What They Reveal About Us
Whether you have one sib or ten sibs, “there may be no relationship that can run quite as deep or survive quite as long as those among siblings. Read more
Posted on 23 March 2014 LIFE COACH -
Men and Depression: An Unspoken Conversation
Depression affects more than 6 million men annually. The erroneous message that depression is just a ‘woman’s disease’ misses the other important half of our... Read more
Posted on 16 March 2014 LIFE COACH -
Helping Men Open Up and Find Their Voice
Starting therapy ain’t easy. That I know. Sitting down, talking to a stranger about your life – the good and the bad – is often anxiety producing. I see it in... Read more
Posted on 10 March 2014 LIFE COACH -
Helping Men Help Themselves Through Therapy
Over the past several months, I have experienced an influx of men – single, married, and coupled up – in my practice. I consider this to be a positive... Read more
Posted on 03 March 2014 LIFE COACH -
The Stages of Love. Where Are You?
Love! Ain’t it grand! In each stage of love, there are positives and negatives. Yet, despite the negatives, people continue to try and get it right, make their... Read more
Posted on 24 February 2014 LIFE COACH -
Understanding The Complexities of Love and Relationships
LOVE. We all want it. We all need it. When we get it, we seek ways to nurture, sustain, and maintain it. It’s our never ending search for the “Holy Grail” of... Read more
Posted on 17 February 2014 LIFE COACH -
The Biology of Dating and Finding Love
February. The month of love. As a relationship and marital therapist, I peruse current research, articles, and blogs that will ultimately help me help my... Read more
Posted on 10 February 2014 DATING, LIFE COACH, LOVE & SEX -
Dating in the Digital Age
I work with a lot of people who are looking for love and want to be in a relationship and are using online dating to this end. Read more
Posted on 03 February 2014 DATING, LIFE COACH, LOVE & SEX -
3 Harmful Patterns of Communication in Relationships
Unresolved conflict in relationships can create negative patterns of communication which become a loop or a “dance”. Once in the dance, couples find it difficul... Read more
Posted on 27 January 2014 LIFE COACH, RELATIONSHIPS -
Relationship Advice: How to Fight Fair
“We don’t know how to communicate.” “We don’t know how to fight fair.” “How do you do that?” “Most of our conversations become arguments and remain... Read more
Posted on 20 January 2014 LIFE COACH -
Overcoming Financial Infidelity in Your Relationship
Financial infidelity. The secretive act of posessing credit and credit cards, spending or borrowing money, holding secrets about a bank or credit card accounts... Read more
Posted on 12 January 2014 LIFE COACH -
The Impact of Facebook on Relationships
Trust, love, kindness, generosity of sprit, the golden rule, and respect are some of the integral components of a healthy relationship. Read more
Posted on 06 January 2014 LIFE COACH