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LATEST ARTICLES ( 153 )

• Neither Pity nor a Fetish

  Trans/cis relationships? For a fair while I was pessimistic – running the gamut of ‘cis people confronted by trans object of desire’ will do that for you. Read more

  Posted on 08 October 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• “Lesbian for a Year”? 5 Books I’d Rather Read

  So, another day, another writer plumps for the popular-yet-still-somehow-considered-edgy strategy of pretending to be something for a certain length of time... Read more

  Posted on 22 September 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• A Break from Your Regularly Scheduled Blogging…

  …to let you know that, with the academic year starting, I have space for three more students – who wants in? For those of you who only know me as a blogger, or... Read more

  Posted on 16 September 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• What Survives When Stereotypes Collide?

  Or: what do you say to a genderqueer bisexual? What do you say to their bisexual partner? I knew you’d go back to men Because I’m assumed to be a woman, and mus... Read more

  Posted on 08 September 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Bullying & Music & ‘You’

  Despite my long – and sometimes interesting – history of mental health conditions, there have only been a small handful of times where I’ve been actively... Read more

  Posted on 01 September 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• #TransStonewall – the First Meeting

  What happened, who was there, and where we go from here. Before saying anything else, please go and read this piece by Kat Gupta and this one by Ruth Pearce,... Read more

  Posted on 30 August 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Transpose News

  The last one, the next one, and some general information   I realise that, though I managed to remember to update all the other social media, I’ve been remiss i... Read more

  Posted on 26 August 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Don’t Like the Word ‘cis’? Good*

  I can’t say it’s a particular favourite of mine, anymore than ‘trans’ is – after all, I’m not a fan of labels or dichotomies in general. Read more

  Posted on 19 August 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• This is What Dysphoria Feels Like

  Because so many people who want to know more about trans rights, and be supportive, don’t really know what dysphoria is, or what it can do. Read more

  Posted on 12 August 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Genderqueer AND Trans

  That’s a labelling I’ve been seeing an awful lot lately: “trans and genderqueer” – “genderqueer and trans”. Not as a description of a person – but as a way of... Read more

  Posted on 18 June 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Words, Words, Words: On Toxicity and Abuse in Online Activism

  

  cnlester:A new post is on its way – but, for the moment, something excellent from another writer. Originally posted on Nuclear Unicorn: To all new readers:... Read more

  Posted on 17 June 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Who I Am is More Than a Talking Point

  Another day, another article talking about being genderqueer, or neutrois, or bigender, as though the phenomenon was as recent as the words we currently use, an... Read more

  Posted on 13 June 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Not by How I Define Myself, but by How Others Define Me

  or Experiencing misogyny without being a woman (Descriptions of harassment contained within) Misogyny is a blunt instrument, but one that can be handled subtly. Read more

  Posted on 10 June 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Your Right to ‘feel Safe’ Does Not Outweigh My Right to BE Safe

  I was eighteen years old and, despite coming out three years earlier, was at my first ever queer club night. The university one, so it wasn’t exactly fancy –... Read more

  Posted on 04 June 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• New Music Video – Are You In?

  What A new video for the Aether track You – click here to listen. Filming with the Positive Change Arts Project. When/Where Saturday June 7th – 4:30pm arrival,... Read more

  Posted on 29 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• “Why Would You Ask That?”

  One of the commonest complaints that trans people have about our interactions with the wider world – and one that many cis people find almost impossible to... Read more

  Posted on 19 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Top Surgery – Master Post

  Last year I chaired an online panel Q A about top surgery, with answers provided by a range of people with different histories, genders, experiences. Read more

  Posted on 15 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love My Work*

  * I have never learnt how to stop worrying. * There are times when working feels like squeezing blood from a stone. Those times will always be with us. I am in... Read more

  Posted on 13 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Something Apt

  Another week of subtle and not so subtle transphobia, and too much work to be allowed. Blogging is light this week, I’m afraid – but I was doing a spot of... Read more

  Posted on 05 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY

• Something for the Weekend

  

  Aether title track is now available as a free download. I recommend listening late in the evening in the open air, glass of wine in hand. Hope you enjoy it –... Read more

  Posted on 04 May 2014 LGBTQ, SEXUALITY