Recently two providers in one city discovered that they had me in common; I never intended to visit both. I contacted one following her instructions and waited a week, but when she failed to respond I contacted the other. After another week, both got back to me on the same day, so I saw both. But they’re friends, and since they discovered I saw both of them, they’re both treating me kind of indifferently now. Is this some kind of jealousy or possessiveness thing?
It would be highly unusual and unprofessional for an escort to get jealous over a client, unless his seeing other women would put her in dire financial straits (for example, if the economy is very bad in her city and she depends on him for a large part of her income). But even in that case, it wouldn’t really be “jealousy” in the sense you’re thinking, but rather concern for economic survival. Under ordinary conditions, escorts are not only non-jealous, we actually give each other references for clients or provide introductions; it’s not at all unusual for one of my gentlemen to ask me for an introduction to one of my friends, and I’m always pleased to see one of their names in the references a new gent provides me. Aside from the pleasure of helping out people we like or love, and the necessity of sex workers being respectful of each others’ safety and survival, such cross-pollination sometimes leads to duos, which many of us enjoy a great deal. All that having been said, I notice that one of these chicks took a week to get back to you and the other two weeks; unless they had some kind of vacation notices on their websites, that strikes me as both unprofessional and just plain bad business. Plus, if they’re friends I can’t see why they’d object to both seeing you; that happens in my circle of friends quite frequently. So it may be that you had the bad luck to run into two not-very-professional escorts who just aren’t very interested in making money, or else their indifference to you is caused by some other factor in your own behavior that you haven’t mentioned.
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