Once upon a time, I recall a client referring to her husband’s
behaviour towards her with the immortal words, “It ain’t no sugar rush when he
rings.”
She was describing how he constantly monitored her movements
using smartphone technology and repeatedly ringing her to make it clear that he
knew where she was and required an account of what she was doing.
On our recent journey through Cuba, we visited the buildings
on an old sugar plantation. There was a luxurious hacienda down the lane from a
large foreboding bell-tower. The tower had been used to better watch the slaves
working in the fields and the huge bell which hung from the top was rung to
control their day.
Whilst slavery in the plantations has long since been abolished, many the marriage that breaks up because one spouse feels that the other controls their every move. The bell at the top of the tower may no longer be rung, but for some it has simply been replaced by the ringing of a mobile phone
