The Five Ways We Grieve

A few months ago I receive a review (aka free) copy of Dr. Susan A. Berger's book The Five Ways We Grieve.  At the time I was interested because my father had just gone into hospice.  It seemed like something I should be reading.
Her basic idea is that people grieve in one of five main ways:

• Nomads who don't really deal with their grief
• Memorialists who spend their time preserving the lost loved one's memory
• Normalizers who try to figure out how to live in the new normal
• Activists who try to help others dealing with the same disease or issue that took their loved one
• Seekers who adopted a new life outlook to give their lives meaning

I didn't even have to read the entire book to know that I'm a normalizer.  From the time we knew Marlene died until now, we've tried to keep the girls' world as "summer normal" as possible. We want them to talk about Aunt 'Lene and remember her, but we also want them to do the fun things seven-year-olds do.  
Dr. Berger talks about how people experience loss and how they develop a grieving type.  My type came from my high school experiences.  When I was a sophomore in high school, four of my classmates died in one year.  It was a frightening time for all of us.  Wondering who was next consumed our thoughts and conversations.   In those days, you went to the wake, the funeral and the next day went back to take a math test.  We didn't have counselors in the school.  We just moved on.
I'm not sure this is the healthiest way to deal with the death of a loved one.  I don't know which other way I should be dealing with grief, but normalizing is what I do.
I think it's what we all do in our family.  All I know it's the way we're wired.  It's a series of choices we make to adapt to something that rocks our lives like a death. 
The Five Ways We Grieve was an instructional way to think about grief without tying too many emotions into it.  I found it an interesting read that helped me understand my personal grief style and how it affects me and my family.