Sometimes People Should Just Shut The Hell Up

You know how everyone’s mother always says, If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all? Well, we all know that’s impossible – especially on the Internet. But there are certain situations when – if you don’t have anything supportive to say, you should really just shut up. One of these situations is when a woman talks about a traumatic birth. If you find the words, You have a healthy baby and that’s all that matters! beginning to roll off your tongue – just keep them in your mouth.After the birth of my first child, I fell into a deep depression for months. I had an unexpected emergency c-section that frankly shocked and traumatized me. I wasn’t prepared to go through surgery. Having since had to have another c-section, I can say with confidence that an emergency c-section is terrifying and totally different than one you expect.My child’s heart had come to a near stop which necessitated lightning speed in the operating room. He was ripped from my body. I’m really not exaggerating. What seemed like about 30 seconds after they numbed me and made the initial incision – I heard him crying. The physical recovery was awful. The short time I had spent in the hospital, really fearing I was losing my child put me into a very dark place. No one understands why a healthy person with a healthy baby is crying everyday. Pretty much everyone except my husband chalked up my depression to some sort of disappointment that I was not able to birth naturally. Yes, I was disappointed – but it was more than that. The experience really scarred me.Read the rest on Mommyish...