Through all the hustle and stress of modern day living, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. It’s a common occurrence and something that happens gradually. It begins with something simple like a new job. At first, it’s exciting and a new challenge. Your employers are busy, which you see as a good sign. To make a good impression you work a little overtime. Nothing significant at first, just working through lunch and staying a little later. But that soon becomes the norm, and you’re lucky if you ever leave on time. And then there are the kids. They have busy social lives and need rides to see friends and attend classes. The house needs to be cleaned, and meals need to be cooked. When did it all become so busy?
It’s often when things go awry that you realize how much of a treadmill life has become. It might be through illness or stress, for example. But it’s good to be aware of these things before they become a problem. If you feel as though you don’t have enough time to think, then it’s time to take action. There are simple things you can do to slow down, take stock and reclaim your life.
Figure Out What’s Not Working
Sit down with a cup of tea or coffee and think carefully about what’s not working. Is it your job, home life, both? Or is something completely different? Why is it no longer working for you? What do you need to change to feel happier? This is the first step to turning things around. If your job is the issue and you’re sick of staying late, then speak to your boss. Be absolutely clear on what you’re prepared to do and establish boundaries. If you agree to work late once or twice a week, make sure you leave on time for the rest of the week. If you work late, set down exactly what time you will be leaving. It may seem difficult at first, but you’ll get used to saying no.
Ditch The Tech
I’m only joking. You don’t need to get rid of your technology. Not fully anyway. But be aware of how much you use it and rely on it. Is it serving you well? Do you tend to communicate with friends only via Facebook or text? If so, it’s time to schedule some time to meet up. Talk in the flesh rather than from behind a screen.
Discover letter writing again. Forget about 140-character tweets, let your creative juices flow and get in touch with old friends and family. Even if it’s just a quick thank you card it will be appreciated. Enjoy the feel of a beautiful fountain pen on fine stationery. Tapping on a screen just can’t compete.
Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness has been around for centuries. Significant research has been carried out in the last few years. Results indicate that being more mindful improves happiness, reduces stress and makes us healthier. It’s not just about meditating. It’s about being present in the moment. For example, if you go for a walk, don’t spend it texting your friends and taking photos. Take time to appreciate your surroundings. Think about what you can see, smell, touch, etc.
Do What You Love
The best way to reclaim your life is to do what you love. Find out what makes you happy and do lots of it. You can’t change or control everything. But you can decide to put your health and happiness first. And this will make the rest more bearable.
