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How old were your children when you became a single mum?
My eldest was nearly2 when I split from his dad. We got back together for a short time in 2009 (resulting in the conception of our daughter).
Did you ever imagine that you would become a single parent?
I don’t think anyone imagines they will become a single parent.
Do you ever feel guilty that your children will not grow up with both parents?
Not at all. My children now live in a happy home, something htey wouldn’t have had otherwise.
How did you become a single mum? Was it your choice?
Basically my children’s father cheated and I threw him out in early 2009. We got back together in late 2009 briefly, but at thins time he was controlling, agressive and violent. So we split again, this time for good.
What is the best thing about being a single mum?
I get all the love. I get all the fun times. I get to see my gorgeous hildren every day.
What is the worst thing about being a single mum?
There is no break from it. You’re the one there 24/7.
How do you think single mums are stereotyped?
I think we are stereotyped as being bad parents, living off benefits.
Does your child’s father still have an input in your children’s life?
He does now. When we first split up he moved in with another girl and she hated our son with a passion. She did everything possible to stop contact. Now they aren’t together anymore and he sees the children at least once a week.
Do you think there is enough support for single mums?
There is support there but you have to go looking for it. I think a lot of the support is aimed at young single mums, rather than all ages.
What do you miss most about being in a relationship?
The company. But I have great friends.
Will you ever trust enough to allow a new person into your children’s life?
Eventually. But they would have to understand and accept that my children do and always will come first.
If you could go back in time what would you change about the relationship with your child’s father?
Nothing, two amazing children came out of it.
What will you tell your child happened when the time comes that they ask why you and their father are not together?
Yes, if they ask.
