One of our caring readers wrote to us reminding us that October is Domestic Violence awareness month. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, one in three women and one in four men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime. Further, studies suggest that there is a relationship between intimate partner violence and depression and suicidal behavior.
Which leads me to a second epidemic: Mental Illness. The first full week of October was World Mental Health week. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, one in four of us will experience a diagnosable mental illness this year. Earlier this month in my role as AdFed Suncoast Public Service Chair, I led the creative campaign kick off for our 2014-15 partner, Mental Health Community Centers. We aspire to elevate awareness around this stigma.
Mindfulness is key; yet how can we further decrease domestic violence and undiagnosed mental illness?
Many times, you do not take action to get away from a physically or psychologically abusive partner or seek treatment for your mental illness because you are ashamed.
Shame is rampant in our culture…it is an icky common denominator of domestic violence and undiagnosed mental illness.
In Brené Brown’s Ted talk, “Listening to Shameâ€�, you learn that shame is HIGHLY CORRELATED with addiction, depression, suicide, eating disorders, and violence. Shame is your negative voice saying things like “You are badâ€�, “You are not good enough or you are not pretty enough or you are not smart enoughâ€�, or when you do something positive it harshly criticizes and judges, “Who do you think you are?â€� Brené says, “If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgment.â€� So how do you evict shame? When someone shares something raw and real with you, respond with these two words: “Me too. Empathy is the antidote to shame.â€�
When you practice nonjudgmental listening and are compassionate in your thoughts and actions, you are doing your part to affirm that shame has no place here.
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