Two Keys To Keep Your Joy Between the First Date and Courtship
1. Stay Grounded
First dates are very exciting. You’re taking your first steps towards courtship. Even if the date is with someone you’ve known before, you’re excited to know them in a new way.
The temptation will be there to soar to cloud nine and think of names for your first five children. But let me encourage you to stay grounded. If this is going to be the love that you’ve been waiting for, let it happen spiritually and naturally. It will keep expectations reasonable and spare you unnecessary sorrow.
God has written your love story and wants you to enjoy every aspect of it.
Just like a novel there will be characters that play major and minor roles in our lives. Not everyone you meet is The One. Keep your feet on the ground until God says it’s time to fly.
2. Relax
When you prepare for your first initial dates, you may have a few butterflies in the belly. But do not let a little nervousness turn into anxiety. Tension can run high with worry if we allow it. Is he the one? Will he like me? How will I know how he feels?
I heard a story about a couple who went to an amusement park. Before their date she wanted to add some extensions to her hair so she would be as beautiful as possible.
They were having fun on the rides, laughing, and enjoying each other’s company. As they went downward on a roller coaster, they were both screaming and laughing. Then all of a sudden he wasn’t laughing anymore.
Half of her fake hair was coming loose from her head. After the ride she just knew he would never want to see her again. He looked at her, and then at the hair that was barely hanging from her real hair. He smiled and told her to get rid of it, she didn’t need it.
She removed the hair and they had an incredible date.
Don’t have anxiety over what you will wear or how you will get him to like you. Just be yourself and trust that God’s hands are upon you. Let Jacob and Rachel, and Ruth and Boaz reassure you that God knows how to bring couples together.
So relax and stay grounded in the season between the first date and courtship. It can be a very enjoyable and memorable time when you’re trusting in the Lord.
