Describe your first date with your now current partner. Did you feel any "butterflies" on your first couple of encounters? Did you have any indication it would later be the "real deal?"
Dear Dazed and Confused Samantha,
I know it's been a rough year for you. You don't like your job, you've dealt with some extremely difficult personal issues, and the last couple of guys you've dated couldn't have been more wrong for you.
Now what I'm about to tell you may shock you, but just trust me on this one; you're going to meet someone this summer and it's going to be it for you. I know what you're thinking; you've sworn off guys and don't want to get involved with anyone for a long time. But just trust me on this one...
You're going to walk into a new friend's backyard one day and spot the most gorgeous set of green eyes you've ever seen. After a quick introduction, you're going to find out he went to the same college as you and you will instantly bond over this. You're going to indulge in a few too many adult beverages that day, so don't be surprised if things don't take off between you and this guy for a few weeks.
The day you meet...
(Oh but you will find a photo shoot on your cell phone the next morning, and the pictures you two share couldn't be more spot on of your personalities.)
He's a little more nervous, reserved, and shy than the guys you are used to dating. He won't show you he likes you nor will he really even tell you. But he does, so stop second guessing your relationship with him.
After a few weeks, things will really start to take off. You won't know it's possible to fall for someone so quickly but it is. He will later tell you stories of how he used to move your chair closer to his at the bonfires when you would go get a drink, or how the first night he kissed he told his mom he just kissed the girl he was going to marry. (You'll talk about this because you will also call your best friend on your way home and tell her the same thing.)
I know this sounds too good to be true, and there's a little something you won't know. A few weeks after you've been dating, right around the beginning of fall, you'll find out something huge, life changing even. You'll find out he has enlisted in the US Army.
What's a girl to do at this point? Why stay with him of course. You've already discovered he's the one. He makes you laugh. He gives you butterflies. You light up when you see a BBM from him. You'll quote movies. You'll crack inside jokes. You won't be able to keep your hands off each other.
On the day he enlists, he will call and ask you to dinner. He will surprise you with flowers when he shows up to your door, and you will go to Station 43 for dinner.
You'll be able to tell something's up; he will look more nervous than you've ever seen him and he will be acting a little strange. Give him a break, he's about to tell you he's falling in love with you. He'll tell you he's never felt this way about anyone and that despite only knowing each other for a few weeks, he knows you're the one.
Your heart will melt. You will not believe it's your life and after all you've been through, you will wonder if it's too good to be true.
But it's not. It's more true than anything has ever been in your life and you will know at that moment, it's forever.
I know it feels like a fantasy fairytale right now but just give it a few weeks. This is going to be your life. This is going to be your happily ever after.
Enjoy this time my love, it's the beginning of the greatest love story of all time.
Xoxo,
Happily Married Samantha
"Conquering life one step and one museum at a time."
