I wanted to start including a few more life style posts on my blog and after looking through my comments and social media I noticed a lot of people, particularly girls, posting messages where they mentioned that 'haters' are upsetting them and work colleagues were being less than professional, so this post is all about killing them with kindness.
Whether you're 12 or 90, this post applies to you. Every single person I know has come across some levels of negativity from other people. It's also worth noting that every single person I know has also been in the situation where they have been that source of negativity, but that's okay, none of us are perfect (including me) and it's human nature to not be cheery and the positive influence of every single person's life.
If you're at school and someone is making you feel bad about yourself or if someone you know is making you feel bad without even realizing, I have found the best way to deal with them is by killing them with kindness. I don't mean feed them ten tonnes of sugar in the hope that they get diabetes here, I'm talking about putting a smile on your face and giving a polite response.
So if for example someone says "that skirts' nice, is it from last season?". You will probably instantly feel flattered that they like your skirt but then notice the little backhanded compliment after a moment. As angry and hurt as you may feel by their comment, rise above it, let them see you're not phased by what they've just said. Simply smile and thank them for the compliment. Just ensure you don't spend any extra time that necessary with that person for a while and the message won't be long in getting through to them.
Yup, it's frustrating, but people do things to get a reaction. We've all done it. "Do you like my hair?" for example is our way of asking for a compliment on our new do and we love to see people's reactions when we do something good. People also like to see reactions from others when they say or do something unexpected. I've done it before. If you say you haven't you're lying to yourself. It doesn't need to be a malicious thing nor does it need to be done in a negative way towards anyone else, I just mean it could be dating a guy you know your family don't approve of, or getting a tattoo or something.
The lesson here today (teacher Holly, Jokes!) is that if you rise above the pettiness of silly remarks or negativity, you'll find you'll feel much happier and the thoughts of their remarks won't really occupy your mind or take any more energy than it deserved. Your friend will see that and hopefully will get the message not to do it again. I would also urge you to take a long hard look in the mirror and remember that your comments also affect other people. Make sure that anything critical you have to say is only said when it needs to be said, not just because you think it. It'll help you out in life, trust me!
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