I don’t have experience in the sex industry, but want to learn what my options are; how can I do this? How I might get started? What the pros/cons are for each segment? What are the specific qualities that are suited for each profession? I’m 31, intelligent and already have a good job, but I’ve ALWAYS had a desire to make money with sex, though I worry I’m not pretty enough.
Different kinds of sex work are better for different people; for example, I really didn’t like stripping, and I hate domination, but GFE (Girl Friend Experience) escorting was a perfect fit for me. However, I have friends who stripped for years and love it, and some who enjoy domination much more than escorting. Unfortunately, I can’t think of any way to figure out which one you like best other than trying them. Many sex workers try several before settling on the one they like best; some even go back and forth between different types at different times in their lives. Since you live in a large city it should be relatively easy for you to try a number of things, especially stripping and agency escorting; if you enjoy the work with the agency you could then go on to independent escorting. The reason I’m suggesting an agency at first is that, since you already have a “straight” job, that would let you get your feet wet without risking undue exposure until you’re sure you’ll like it. Don’t worry about whether you’re pretty enough; if men make passes at you, you are. I’ve known some stunning girls who didn’t do as well as others who were just normally pretty, because they had less attractive personalities. Looks are good bait, but unless there’s some substance underneath she won’t get either repeat business or referrals. The women who do best at escorting are the ones whose company men really enjoy, and each of the other types of sex work has its own skills and characteristics that are just as important as looks.
One good place to start is my Questions page; about halfway down there’s a section called “mentoring” with questions other ladies have asked me, hyperlinked to the posts where I answered them. Take a look at those, then go online and look at the strip clubs and escort services nearby. Most are ALWAYS hiring, so that’s not usually an issue; after that it’s just a matter of getting your courage up! If you have any other questions after reading those posts, please feel free to ask.
(Have a question of your own? Please consult this page to see if I’ve answered it in a previous column, and if not just click here to ask me via email.)
