
This is how life works. You have to take the trash out of your life: out of your habits, out of your emotions, out of your relationships... You can only hold so much garbage. Let it go early on so you don't risk it bubbling up when your metaphorical bag breaks. Don't keep it around so long that you're continually smelling it and pushing it down, getting yourself into even more of a mess.
Empty your trashcan. Move on to easier, cleaner, better smelling living.