I have been married twice now, yes I love wedding cake and the presents. But is marriage right for everyone? Are you the kind of person who can imagine spending the rest of your life with that one same person?
Matt & I have been married a year in June and the day was amazing, it was everything I dreamed of and more. But has anything changed in our relationship since we became man and wife? Other than my change of surname, I can’t think of any that.
I married my ex husband after five years together, we were then married for almost six years, so the relationship in total lasted almost eleven years, Sadly the marriage ended.
Matt and I had been together for four years and we have three children before we decided to get married. I was not put off from marriage due to a passed failed marriage, Matt had also been married before.
I have so many friends who are not married and don’t care to get married, they say its nothing more than a piece of paper and in all honestly I guess it is. Unless you are strongly religious
Does a marriage make a relationship stronger? I believe if you don’t have a strong relationship in the first place then you should not be thinking of wedding bless. No a wedding ring on your finger does not make you stronger. But I do love the fact that I am his wife, that we both stood and took our vows and made promises to each other. We are more of a team now than before, we somehow become more of a couple. Its not just Emma & Matt, it’s Mr & Mrs White.
Is marriage better for children? I do not believe being married makes you a better parent or has any reflection upon how you raise your children. I know far too many single mums who are doing just a good as job as I am.
I also think that being married makes you want to work harder at your relationship, its not that simple to just split up, marriage laws are in place and things can become complicated if you do decide to divorce as I found out with my first marriage. Because we were married I had to go to the courts to ask for him to be removed from our family home. Being married also gave him full rights to the children, despite him having parental responsibility, I had to apply for residency orders also.
I have 3 children who have the surname of my ex husband and I have 3 children who share my husband & my surname, it does not bother me in the slightest and only if the children requested would I think of changing them all to the same as mine.
What do you think? Does being married really matter? Leave me a comment to let me know your views.
This post is a debate corner post by The Real Supermum
