I’m very interested in sex work, but I have several large and very distinctive birthmarks. In day to day life they’re covered with clothing, but when I’m nude they’re impossible to hide. Because of this I don’t think I could successfully advertise my services without compromising my identity, and I’m concerned that there are some men who might be put off by my marks if I dress to hide them in pictures. Do you have any suggestions on finding men who would consider my marks an asset to my beauty, without compromising my privacy or boundaries? I’ve also considered exploring long term arrangements where I would exchange both my emotional intimacy and sex for money and material items (I’m not too sure if there is a specific name for that). Have you know any SW who leveraged unusual physical characteristics and were able to thrive in their careers?
One thing we learn in the sex industry is that anything which sets one woman apart from others will have its fans. For example, my friend Buttons Berry is a little person, about four feet tall, and she supports herself quite well via escorting. But though men are accepting of a wide variety of characteristics, they definitely want to see what they’re getting (and can get angry if they feel as though they’ve been “fooled”), so hiding your marks in photos might be a bad idea, and showing them could compromise your identity, since they’re distinctive. How would you feel about trying sugar dating on for size first? That’s the name for the kind of compensated dating you’re talking about, and though it’s not as lucrative as escorting it’s “softer” in the sense that there is far less social stigma in being a sugar baby than an escort, and it’s not illegal. You could make your public pictures clothes-on and mention your marks in the write-up, with pictures revealing more on a private page that men need your permission to get to (most sugar sites are set up that way). That way you could get used to the work and see how men react, without spreading nudes all over the internet and potentially torpedoing your future “straight” career plans. Plus, as I wrote a few weeks ago, this is a very uncertain time to be entering escorting, so I feel uncomfortable suggesting any new ladies enter that particular type of sex work right now.
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