(Photo: Fabrice Drevon)
A few years ago I got in a car with a great Pick Up Artist. He was a grown man and although he was married, he always had 2 or 3 lover girls and this made me really curious. So, one day I asked what’s his secret, how come all the ladies want to be with him and he answered that you must have that sparkle. This sparkle that is called CHARISMA. When you say that someone is charismatic, you mean a whole lot of things that you can’t explain in words , but all that you know is that this person is successful , adorable and everybody likes.
Let me tell you a secret .. women are absolutely crazy about charismatic guys. Wanna know why? Because women are more EMOTIONAL and they really see the depth of a man’s character. A woman is born to FEEL what goes around her.
I have a friend who’s got a little sister, around 3 years old, really pretty and full of life. One day I went on a visit and I saw something that really touched my heart… the little girl , with tears in her eyes, came to hug her brother and to comfort him. She felt something was wrong with him and she even gave him her candy that she received from her parents. As they grow , girls learn how to control their feelings , but nothing changes the perceptions about feelings, on the contrary , this 6th sense is sharpened more and more…
A woman wants to feel , and therefore she wants a man that can make her FEEL joy, enthusiasm, pleasure, desire , dominance, security , fear , motivation, love and trust , uncertainty, adrenaline , jealousy , passion , satisfaction, courage , mercy , compassion , anger, freedom , ambition and so on. These are all just a drop into the ocean .. most not being able to be expressed in words.
This reminds me of a mountain village where I got the chance to meet a very special old man. I mean special because he was famous for its flair for stories. When he was telling a story, he really meant it from the bottom of his heart. He was reliving the story all over again and made us feel cold chilies down our spines and total relaxation when something good happened. I can say that old man was the most charismatic person I’ve ever met in my life.
Why charismatic persons are so valuable? Because you rarely get a chance to meet one, and that’s exactly why we should consider ourselves lucky …. Now you can choose to become this kind of person that everyone wants to be around.
However , I can see a track that many choose to follow. What most don’t know is that this track leads to a dead end. Inhibiting your feelings along with FEAR is not a way to lose the anxiety you are feeling when you approach a girl or an unusual business situation. In the end, you will end up an empty figure, with faded feelings and emotions.
There was a time I used to act like this , because at that moment is seemed the best way to behave , but I only managed to become bored and most of all – boring.
YOU must USE that charm that makes her FEEL what you are telling her about … remember , it is ESSENTIAL . Instead of shutting yourself and all your feeling inside, let everybody read how CHARMING you can be!
